Forgive him and be free.

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The Yin Yang Symbol. Everything has to come back to balance.

I still remember the first time she came for a session. Tears and rage burned in her eyes covering a deep wound in her heart.

“I want revenge. He’s seeing someone from his office romantically. AGAIN”

The Tarot confirmed an affair, but she knew it already. Women always know. The cards pointed at a narcissistic spouse, one who lived purely for himself, playing absent father to his 2 children and blaming this lady for all his misery. The kind who sing softly about their wives follies behind their back to sympathetic ears and bosoms. Her anger was beyond that. She didn’t care what he was telling his lovers, she only wanted him to feel her pain.

“This is not the first time. And this one won’t be the last. I don’t want to tell him I know this time. I only want revenge” She covered her face and wept in shame, the tears of a woman who’d never taken revenge before in her life.

“The last time he had an affair and I found out he promised to keep this marriage going for the sake of the children. Why did he break his vows? I want him to repent”

The messages she received urged her to find peace among her loved ones. Her friends and family her pets. To soak up all the unconditional love she possibly could. She needed to be strong first with those who loved her.

” This is a karmic relationship. Don’t get into the negative zone. No need for revenge, let karma do it for you.”

I could see she wasn’t convinced. But karma is like that. We don’t really believe in it until we’re hit by the impact of a karmic relationship. We like to believe it’s outside us, but somewhere in some way we too are responsible for creating a karmic situation where the pain cuts so deep, it almost seems unhealable.

“Forgive him and move on with your life”

I didn’t hear from her again till a few days ago when this came in the mail.

“Just wanted to say thank you for being the only one who told me not take revenge on my cheating husband and let karma only decide what his fate is. Everyone else gave me so many remedies to bring him closer, to destroy the other woman but nothing has worked. Some people even predicted that he would destroy himself. But I dont want to hurt him the way he has hurt me and my children. This IS a karmic relationsip, And then I remembered what your cards said to forgive him and move on. It is very very hard and has been a very painful journey to let go of the abuse and the adultery. But I am getting there. One night I felt so light because I had forgiven him and no longer began to feel any need to take revenge. I found the strength to live my own life and be a mother and father to my teenaged children. He is facing his own karma. His children do not want to be with him anymore. I have found so much strength with my friends and my family. Please share my story so others can learn please say a prayer for me”

Many prayers to you my brave lady. You have demonstrated what very few of us have achieved in this lifetime. The willingness and the ability to forgive the person who has hurt you the most. I pray you find greater strength and peace as a soul.

If you’ve read this far, please say a prayer for this lady.

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Tarot for Today

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“Every morning birds would sing
Do you remember
Those special times
They’ll just go on and on
In the back of my mind” –
“Remember the time’ by Michael Jackson

You are blessed today for all your good thoughts, words and actions of the past. The times you helped someone. The times you brought laughter into a sad room. And the times you were uniquely, you.

Think of a special time in your life. And express gratitude to the people and places that come up in your memory. They too have played a role in blessing you today.

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Tarot for Today are a part of the series of messages I receive after meditation. I hope they bring you clarity and happiness. If they do, please share the link with your family and friends. Thank you. For appointments message 9810138315/mita.bhan.com

October 2019 Tarot Forecast for all Sun Signs

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Dedicated to the Great Goddesses without whom there would be no creation. May they shower you with peace and love. Artwork by Arun Samaddar

Thank you so much for supporting my Monthly Tarot Forecasts with your feedback and suggestions. Do share the forecast with your friends and family. For telephonic readings/email reports and select personalised readings message 9810138315/mita.bhan@gmail.com for details. If you would like to copy an excerpt or the whole reading kindly provide a link to this page.

Aries (Mar 21 – Apr 19)

Soak in the love this October. Friends, family and maybe even a special someone may express affection and show you just how special you are. Just in case you’d forgotten your talents, this month brings out your creative streak. Spend more time with Nature and allow yourself to feel a sense of appreciation for all that you are and all that you have done. Financially a month that promises gradual increase but comes with a warning not to splurge unecessarily. Too much of a good thing isn’t always good. So do maintain a balance.

Taurus (Apr 20- May 20)

You’re bored because you’ve made your life too structured and predictable. Add a little adventure. Learn a new skill. Hang out with a different crowd. Step out of your comfort zone. Even at work you may find your current situation too stifling and will start looking for new work opportunities with renewed vigour. Trust the words of an old friend, you may realise just how right they were. Singles may talk about commitment and if searching, you may find a potential life partner in the weeks ahead. Just be yourself and let destiny unfold.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

When you learn to let go you get rewarded with a sense of inner security. Expectations have only brought pain and this month sees you forgiving, disconnecting and detaching from some toxic people. Focus on being productive and a lot will get done. Money that was owed may return. And on the work front an important deal could get signed or an important event will require your valuable inputs. If you can dream it, you can do it.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Sometimes your good heart makes you a little gullible. Be a little cautious. A thief is in your midst. And could steal your ideas/possessions or your heart if you are not careful. Make sure you prioritise your health in the weeks ahead, your body will thank you for it. Minor delays in money matters may cause temporary stress but will soon even out. A short break brings much needed relief and escape from the city’s ways. Look forward to a sense of renewal. Your energy levels are high and you will enjoy socialising, after a long period of silence.

Leo (July 23- Aug 22)

So much to do so little time. You may feel overwhelmed by the demands placed on you. Instead of buckling with the pressure, learn to ask for help. Delegate and prioritise. Don’t worry about whether what you’re doing is enough. You’ve got the makings of a good leader, and you may even start a business. A surprise reunion could spark off a renewed friendship. Relief will come when you hear about the truth about a situation from the past.

Virgo (Aug 23- Sept 22)

If you’re sleep patterns are disturbed you’re going to wake up tired so do be more mindful about your precious health. An old situation is about to end, and things may get better sooner than you think. Stay flexible and don’t let last minute changes faze you. Some doors will shut but new opportunities will come. Just keep your intentions clear and energies will flow in the direction that’s right. Volunteering your time and your skills for a good cause will refresh and renew your soul. Spending time with family and friends will boost your spirits.

Libra (Sept 23- Oct 22)

Don’t underestimate yourself and your abilities. Replace self doubt with the knowledge that you are stronger than you think. If you’re patient and tolerant, you’ll find things work out in your favour especially during negotiations. An overseas connection could bring a feeling of relief or joy. Things will go smoother than you envisage. And a celebration with loved ones will only strengthen your belief in the power of love.

Scorpio (Oct 23- Nov21)

The things you take for granted may be taken from you. Cherish your family and friends who put up with a lot of your moods and and your habits. Whoever or whatever symptoms you ignore now will return to remind you of what truly matters in life. Financially a month of steady gains especially for the self employed. Goals need to be a little more realistic. And some paperwork does require your time and attention. If you’re falling for someone, tell them your feelings.

Saggitarius (Nov 22- Dec 21)

Speak out for what you believe is right. Suppressing your opinions and feelings will only lead to feelings of resentment. Not everyone has your strong work ethic and you may feel drained by their dishonesty. Do the right thing regardless. A project or a significant phase approaches successful completion. A wonderful month for students, the cards promise greater success ahead. Just don’t quit now. And don’t allow other people’s actions to deter you from your path.

Capricorn (Dec 22-Jan19)

Negative thinking only leads to negative situations. Avoid gossips and avoid complaining. Focus only what is working and what could go right. A coworker’s carelessness could lead to last minute stress. Keep a cool heal and get things done. Financially things are not as bad you imagine. There is hope in the horizon and when you realise that somethings just have to be accepted you will feel more motivated. Boost your immune system with the right food. A sudden holiday plan will lift your spirits.

Aquarius (Jan 20- Feb 18)

Don’t allow other people’s behaviour to ruin your day. Rise above their pettiness and focus on doing what you do best. A minor disappointment could prove to be the turning point in your growth. Work matters run smoothly but deep inside you may feel unfulfilled and a little restless. Be still and learn to be okay with the feeling and trust that the answers will come when the time is right. A prayer gets answered.

Pisces (Feb 19- Mar20)

An opportunity presents itself which will change your perspective in a significant and memorable way. You grow in many ways and discover a new talent or passion. A month to follow your heart and your instincts. Romance may be in the air, but you may be a little choosy about who gets your heart. A part of you may be ready for a deeper bond and may think of marriage more seriously. Friends may turn to you for a shoulder or advice. Your deep compassion will move you to do something for this planet.

Mita Bhan

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5 Reasons you give up Loving Yourself

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“Love Yourself” is probably the most frequently transmitted message we receive in our day to day lives from the Universe.  Though it may sound like a “passing buzzword” that’s sometimes shiny and sometimes dull, it keeps on coming our way. But we choose to skip it.  Some of us practice self  love occasionally and then move on to other things.  If you’ve ever wondered why, here are 5 possible reasons you may be giving up.

  • Disbelief – You just cannot believe how self love will work. Somewhere you think it’s a fad, or it’s not for you or you just aren’t good enough.  Ask yourself why you gave  up and realise this is a lifelong practice to make peace with ourselves.
  • Quitting too Soon – Too many people give up the practice after a few days or weeks, not realising that it takes time to heal years of low self worth and like all forms of practice, there will be dull days. The times when we feel most disappointed with ourselves is when we most need to practice this. Just dont quit!
  • External Sources – This could be watching the news everyday and feeling such an overwhelming sense of negativity you just stop bothering.  Or a change in routine (sudden workload for example) where you simply don’t find the time and forget.
  • Old Habits – Habits are hard to break, and harder to make. Some say it takes 21 days of consistent effort for a good habit to form and even longer to release the urge to binge, criticise ourselves or break the exercise routine.
  • Other’s Opinions. No matter what wear, say or do, there will always be some people who just won’t like you. Or will do what they can to put you down or make you feel small. Just keep loving yourself and remember, haters gotta hate. If you’re depending on others to love you to make you feel good about yourself you’ll always be disappointed. Start by approving of yourself, a little bit every day.

Ultimately, self love is a personal process. One that needs no one to approve of us and has no deadline. Do what works for you, and just don’t quit. And if you do, get back up and start loving who you are all over again:)

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Don’t Bottle Up Your Feelings.

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Trying to be strong by repressing emotions is the worst thing we can do for our health. Every emotion we ignore, push back or numb out, finds a way of coming back at us, in the most toxic of ways. By suppressing a painful memory and acting like everything is normal is simply buying time until they re-emerge or make us sick.

I’ve learnt that repressing emotions and bottling them up doesn’t make them disappear, they only make things worse and one fine day, some little thing is going to make them spill over or explode. And if I want to live more fully in the present and embrace the potential of the future, I HAVE to express those old buried feelings.

What’s required is a final goodbye. Crying one last time for something or someone and then never again. Pouring your heart out in a letter. Talking it out. Realising that the memory is the past, and cannot be changed, only released.

Leaving us lighter, freer and a lot more healthier.

Guided Healing Meditations combine energy healing and meditative techniques to help us release old, unwanted baggage that’s preventing us from being our best selves. For more information message me at mita.bhan@gmail.com or 9810138315

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Dealing with Sudden Changes in Life

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Nobody likes sudden changes.

Nobody.

Initially we all put up a fight.

We want the good old ways, or the good old days. But deep down we know it’s not going to happen. It’s either accept, adapt, suffer or struggle.

When 4 fives come out in a single spread, you know it’s no small matter. In the Tarot, fives represent change, challenge, fluctuations of energy and a certain unpredictablity with it. And when reflected in the 4 suits you can be sure the changes are taking place at all levels, globally and personally – at all levels – Professionally, Personally, Mentally, Emotionally, Spiritually.

The key to change is to not panic or fear. Not all changes are bad. Some serve us wake up calls. And some get us ready for who we were meant to be and what we were meant to become. Take time out to meditate regularly and operate from a place of stillness. Maintain an open mind and go with the flow. And while you’re at it, think of ways to adapt with changing times.

As the great Greek philospher once said “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new”

Facing sudden changes at your workplace or in your relationships? For more insights on Peaceful Transitions – get in touch for a Tarot Reading or a Guided Healing Meditation, message 9810138315/mita.bhan@gmail.com.

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All is One

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Bless the hearts of the founders of Salam Balak Trust and all their volunteers for giving love, food, shelter, education and employment to the boys who live in their shelter in New Delhi.

Being a child on the streets of Delhi is no playground.The harshest, roughest neighbourhood brings out a strong, survival instinct, and a certain intelligence that’s a blend of street smart and an intuitive understanding of Life. Raising them right too requires a sensitivity and a firmness inculcating a sense of discipline and eventual purpose.

When I walked in this morning armed with my notes on teaching kids how to manage their anger, I was surprised by their answers. Each one had a particular insight to share.

When asked how do you handle anger, almost all of them spoke of bashing up the bad guy except one. “When I feel angry, I just go to my room and dance” He already knew how to channel the energies of anger.

Guided healing meditations with the boys

When we spoke of breathing techniques and practiced sharp exhales, one boy remarked “I know this, this is kapaalbhaati and it’s good for health” The session continued in dialogue, laughter and shared learnings.

When they closed their eyes in meditation and received hands on healing I understood the real meaning of ‘all is one”

Thank you young souls, may you grow up to be the change our world needs. And heartfelt thanks to my friends and family who support me:)

For more information on the Salam Balak Trust https://www.salaambaalaktrust.com/

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Manusya Rin – We cannot take without giving back

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Monks artwork by Rashi Gupta.

According to ancient Hindu Scriptures everyone of us has some sort of karmic debt to clear with each and every one we interact with. We are all born with ‘rin” a debt we need to clear, a lesson we need to learn if we want to live a life of peace. We cannot take without giving back. And those who only take are bound by their selfish karmas for lifetimes.

The path to peace comes from acknowledging our karmic debts with humanity and serving or helping one less fortunate. At a larger level, peace can be attained by giving back to society. Donating a percentage of earnings to charity. And at a day to day level, helping the person next to us. The mere act of doing or giving another brings joy and peace is an indication that our karma is a little clearer and lighter. And we are more aligned with our purpose as being human on earth.

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September 2019 Tarot Forecast for all Sun Signs

Thank you so much for supporting my Monthly Tarot Forecasts with your feedback and suggestions. Do share the forecast with your friends and family. For telephonic readings/email reports and select personalised readings message 9810138315/mita.bhan@gmail.com for details. If you would like to copy an excerpt or the whole reading kindly provide a link to this page.

Aries (Mar 21 – Apr 19)

If you haven’t learnt from the mistakes of the past, a lesson may be repeated. Be alert to the red flags people are showing in your life. Don’t ignore hunches. A crisis can be averted with planning. Roll up your sleeves and double check written documents. Your willpower is high this month so identify a bad habit and let it go. A friend may reveal his true colours, but you had sensed it all along.

Taurus (Apr 20- May 20)

Don’t hold back. Don’t underestimate yourself. Changes are about to come into your life and your preparation will be perfect. The clearer your goals, the easier the path. A relationship could turn serious or you may talk of partnerships in business. Be clear in your communication. Leave no room for misunderstandings. And while you’re at it, enjoy a month of feeling lighter as you let go of more and more baggage in your life.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Reconnect with your inner self. Reconnect with loved ones. Learn something new. Staying stuck in old patterns of behaviour and action will only lead to stagnation. Money matters may frustrate you with delays but that’s only happening to teach you that money isn’t everything. Exercise a little caution before you blindly trust someone. Don’t wait for the symptoms of stress to reach the peak point – destress regularly for relief.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Relief at last. Something works out in your favour. Finances improve or show the promise of increase. Conflict is averted. People begin to understand what you’ve been trying to say for days. And you can begin to relax with the knowledge that you deserve this respite. A great month for a short getaway, you will return recharged and even more optimistic about the days ahead. Just mind your eating habits, overindulgence in the rich, heavy stuff could lead to a minor ailment.

Leo (July 23- Aug 22)

Frustration is a sign that something in you needs to change. It could be the way you respond to unecessary delays, or with difficult people. The more you accept this, the smoother things will be this month. Control your impulses and keep your temper in check. One wrong word said in a moment of anger could hurt a loved one. A good month for students or those who are building up skills, the cards promise rewards, but only after a bit of stress and struggle. Accept that things will not change until you do.

Virgo (Aug 23- Sept 22)

Your mind opens up to new possibilities. You’re no longer the person you were, and you find yourself thinking and responding differently. A month for stepping out of your comfort zone, you may be in the mood to take a risk, or two, or three. You may find yourself falling for a person who’s not your type. Alternative therapies may help with a recurring ailment and meditation will be highly beneficial. Don’t listen so much to your inner critic.

Libra (Sept 23- Oct 22)

Choices choices and if it’s hard to decide. just go with your heart. The decisions you make this month will have long term effects so take your time and once you decide, don’t look back. Indulge your love for beauty and if creative, express yourself through the Arts. A wonderful period for meeting people, you may just meet a soulmate. Financial worries ease a little but something needs to be reorganised and relooked.

Scorpio (Oct 23- Nov21)

There’s something you need to remember. It could be the key to situation you’re in. Trust your gut feel about someone or something. Take time out for meditation and introspection. A vital truth is about to be revealed that could change your life in many ways. Someone who appeared to be interesting may turn out to be quite a bore, or worse, a pain in the neck. Don’t give too much of yourself before understanding who you are giving to. Control the urge to splurge. If you’re planning to shift homes or change jobs, keep going.

Saggitarius (Nov 22- Dec 21)

You may find yourself nostalgic about the good old days. Or you may miss a special someone from a long time ago. This month asks you to look back on your past for one last time and then move on. Holding on isnt working. And if it’s a relationship or a job that isnt bringing you happiness, then take a good hard look at your life and change it. Money that was owed to you will be returned. You may plan a trip overseas. Be a little vigilant in health matters.

Capricorn (Dec 22-Jan19)

Worrying is a waste of energy. And the minute you realise that you’ll find September to be a far more productive month. Self employed people may find money matters a little concerning but with patience and persistence things should start perking up towards the end of the month. Even at work you may feel you’re being left out of some important decisions and may need to work on your boss management skills. Not a month to squander your energies, get a little more organised and a little more patient and things should work out in your favour. A surprise encounter could turn into a life long friendship.

Aquarius (Jan 20- Feb 18)

Someone may be trying to control you or force you to change your opinions. It could be a family member or a boss. Before you cave in, speak out and stand up for yourself. A situation at home may get tense, and may need to be talked about. Sweeping things under the carpet doesn’t mean a solution has been found. Take issues head on and resolve to clear them up once and for all. A good time for research and getting to the bottom of things your mind is at its sharpest. A mystery will be solved. An answer will be found.

Pisces (Feb 19- Mar20)

A soul cycle comes to an end. And a new, happier phase begins. A month of harmony and smooth interactions with others. Forgiveness brings liberation. Let bygones go and decide who you want in your life. You may find yourself working for a cause or on a dream project and others will sense your renewed enthusiasm. Marriage plans may get finalised. Remember to thank those who contribute to your success story. Keep the circle of good thoughts going.

Mita Bhan

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CAUTION : RED FLAG ALERT

Red flags are those tiny troubling signals we get about our health, a relationship, an organisation or right before we get scammed. They start off as being tiny little sirens in our head alerting us but how many of us do listen to them?

In fact, most of us ignore them initially. I used to think they were part of my imagination. But they’re not. They’re warning signals your intuition is telling you. And they keep popping up until you listen. And if you don’t (like most of us ) it could lead to heartache, stress. loss or regret. And you end up feeling or saying things like

“I noticed his cruel, disrespectful and rude tone with his mother when we were dating. I thought I’d never hear it. I was wrong. After we married he began talking to me in the same tone”

“She’d hide booze bottles in her wardrobe. I ignored her alcoholism for years until the children started getting affected by her behaviour. I could have helped her earlier.”

“At some point in my interview the CFO asked me if I had any questions about working with us. He couldn’t answer any of my questions. I should have known then that there would be utter confusion ahead”

“When he began sharing his financial worries, I felt it was odd as we’d only just begun chatting online, but as we got closer I lent him some money. Now he blocks my calls”

And then what? We regret, we get angry or sad and when the pain wears off there’s a little voice inside us telling us “Don’t ignore the red flags. They’re there for your own good. Peace out before it gets too much to handle”

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