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Laugh Till Your Soul Shines

31 Sunday May 2015

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Laughter is one of the nicest gifts the gods have given us. It’s liberating, healing and yet so infectious. There are so many different kinds of laughs for so many different things. And each one of us possesses a unique laugh, that has the power to lift us from here to up there in seconds. A good laugh can bring tears to our eyes, an ache in our tummies and a sense of complete surrender. Think back to a time when you laughed so hard you cried out to stop but secretly wished it would last forever. It could have been a scene in a movie, a joke a friend told you or a sight that’s indelibly etched in your mind. Chances are you will laugh or smile just thinking about that moment. 

Laughter is truly magical. It makes instant connections between people. Dissolves stress instantly. Makes us forget the struggle and the pain for a few seconds. And brings us as close to our real selves as possible. In fact the more we can laugh at our own selves the more we evolve.

The wise ones tell us to laugh often. And the clever ones have made millions writing books and healing programmes around laughter therapy and its curative powers. Laughter is magic. And it has a way of bringing us back to the basic. When I take life a little too sombrely, or feel weighed down by responsibilities and chores, I turn to the funnies (movie clips, jokes) or I just ask my son to tell me his favourite joke about the sick banana who wasnt peeling too well!

What makes you laugh till your soul shines?

The True Sound of Truth – A Buddhist Parable

20 Wednesday May 2015

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The True Sound of TruthAn old story speaks about a similar problem. A devoted meditator, after years concentrating on a particular mantra, had attained enough insight to begin teaching. The student’s humility was far from perfect, but the teachers at the monastery were not worried. 

A few years of successful teaching left the meditator with no thoughts about learning from anyone; but upon hearing about a famous hermit living nearby, the opportunity was too exciting to be passed up. 

The hermit lived alone on an island at the middle of a lake, so the meditator hired a man with a boat to row across to the island. The meditator was very respectful of the old hermit. As they shared some tea made with herbs the meditator asked him about his spiritual practice. The old man said he had no spiritual practice, except for a mantra which he repeated all the time to himself. The meditator was pleased: the hermit was using the same mantra he used himself — but when the hermit spoke the mantra aloud, the meditator was horrified! 

“What’s wrong?” asked the hermit. 

“I don’t know what to say. I’m afraid you’ve wasted your whole life! You are pronouncing the mantra incorrectly!” 

“Oh, Dear! That is terrible. How should I say it?” 

The meditator gave the correct pronunciation, and the old hermit was very grateful, asking to be left alone so he could get started right away. On the way back across the lake the meditator, now confirmed as an accomplished teacher, was pondering the sad fate of the hermit. 

“It’s so fortunate that I came along. At least he will have a little time to practice correctly before he dies.” Just then, the meditator noticed that the boatman was looking quite shocked, and turned to see the hermit standing respectfully on the water, next to the boat. 

“Excuse me, please. I hate to bother you, but I’ve forgotten the correct pronunciation again. Would you please repeat it for me?” 

“You obviously don’t need it,” stammered the meditator; but the old man persisted in his polite request until the meditator relented and told him again the way he thought the mantra should be pronounced. 

The old hermit was saying the mantra very carefully, slowly, over and over, as he walked across the surface of the water back to the island.

The True Sound of Truth – Buddhist Parable

20 Wednesday May 2015

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An old story speaks about a similar problem. A devoted meditator, after years concentrating on a particular mantra, had attained enough insight to begin teaching. The student’s humility was far from perfect, but the teachers at the monastery were not worried. 

A few years of successful teaching left the meditator with no thoughts about learning from anyone; but upon hearing about a famous hermit living nearby, the opportunity was too exciting to be passed up. 

The hermit lived alone on an island at the middle of a lake, so the meditator hired a man with a boat to row across to the island. The meditator was very respectful of the old hermit. As they shared some tea made with herbs the meditator asked him about his spiritual practice. The old man said he had no spiritual practice, except for a mantra which he repeated all the time to himself. The meditator was pleased: the hermit was using the same mantra he used himself — but when the hermit spoke the mantra aloud, the meditator was horrified! 

“What’s wrong?” asked the hermit. 

“I don’t know what to say. I’m afraid you’ve wasted your whole life! You are pronouncing the mantra incorrectly!” 

“Oh, Dear! That is terrible. How should I say it?” 

The meditator gave the correct pronunciation, and the old hermit was very grateful, asking to be left alone so he could get started right away. On the way back across the lake the meditator, now confirmed as an accomplished teacher, was pondering the sad fate of the hermit. 

“It’s so fortunate that I came along. At least he will have a little time to practice correctly before he dies.” Just then, the meditator noticed that the boatman was looking quite shocked, and turned to see the hermit standing respectfully on the water, next to the boat. 

“Excuse me, please. I hate to bother you, but I’ve forgotten the correct pronunciation again. Would you please repeat it for me?” 

“You obviously don’t need it,” stammered the meditator; but the old man persisted in his polite request until the meditator relented and told him again the way he thought the mantra should be pronounced. 

mantra-om-mani-padme-hum-27490078The old hermit was saying the mantra very carefully, slowly, over and over, as he walked across the surface of the water back to the island.

Love is just a learning

17 Sunday May 2015

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This is the song

for the girl

who made you cry

Took you on a joyride

Leaving without a bye

This is the song

for the woman

with no name

One night spent in passion

Life just wasn’t the same

Think about these women

Think about your life

Think about where you are now

Think about your life

This is the song

for the stranger on the phone

Filled your nights with laughter

so you wouldn’t be alone

This is the song for

the lady with the smile

Who hugged your tears away

Comforting for a while

Think about these women

Think about your life

Think about where you are now

Think about your life

Life is all a learning

from the pain and joy of life

You thought you’d never love again

But now you have a wife

Think about these women

Think about your life

Think about where you are now

Think about your life

Pace – A short story

17 Sunday May 2015

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She was tired today. Tired of pacing round and round the empty spaces, wearing out her paws, wearing out the ground. The sun

blazed brightly in the distance. The birds were singing the same old songs. And the people who strolled by didn’t even feel like stopping to stare and make faces at her, as she lay in the corner staring into nothingness.

What was it like in the jungle she thought. It seems like a distant dream now, the days when she stalked free in the grassy greens. Played with her brothers and sisters and roared at the moon in happiness at night. It seemed like a faraway vision now, blurred with time, even the smell of her mother refused to return as she raised her furry face and took a deep breath down memory lane.

Everyday, it was the same, wake up, eat the putrid meat tossed into the dank cage and pace. Pace. Pace. Pace. Once she used to plan her escape, how she would pounce on the keeper’s hand, and run, while he howled in agony. But even that made her weary now. What was the point. If life was meant to be lived in a small cage alone, then so shall it remain.

She lifted her eyes to the sun and saw a queer glow, a dazzling brightness that reminded her of the days in the wild all of a sudden. How could the same sun that warmed her back in the wilds appear so far away now, as she looked at it through the criss-crosses of the barbed wire. So callous it appeared as the blaze mocked her, see I am free, I am where I was all the time, it is you who is trapped. Who told you to venture far alone? Who told you to break away from the pack because you were curious? Who told you to stare at the hunter like an ignorant human and keep staring until the gun just stunned you and the next thing you knew you were in this cage. This is the price you pay for freedom you stupid tigress, you who thought you were bold and different. The price of freedom is another prison of another kind.

The sun blinked at her in glee. The tigress closed her eyes.

The next morning it took 3 keepers to drag out the lifeless corpse and bury her in the ground, muttering to themselves about fat wild animals who get lazy living in a cage.

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Be The Master of Your Own Destiny

13 Wednesday May 2015

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Be The Master of Your Own Destiny

I constantly face people who come to me wondering why someone else’s predictions didn’t come true for them, or if God was really punishing them. As I’ve come to learn down the ages, it all boils down to taking responsibility for our own lives. The knowledge a tarot reader, numerologist, astrologer or psychic can offer is only half the story, the other, more vital half resides in all of us as human beings on this planet. Going to someone for predictions means walking out their door applying their insights in a workable way.

Here’s an example.

A rather gentle faced 25 year old man came to me for a reading. From his energies I knew he was disappointed and close to giving up on believing in anything remotely positive. From the way he slumped down on the chair, I sensed his question had something to do with his livelihood. He looked at me and then at the deck of cards and asked “When will I get a job?’

When I mentioned that the Tarot was based on the present moment and the energies that surround him right now, and could not offer him an exact date he began to raise his voice. Clearly I had annoyed him. He ranted and raved, telling me about a famous astrologer who had predicted a wonderful career for him 6 months ago, but which hadn’t materialized. And that he had borrowed money to pay my fees. And the Tarot was his last hope about when exactly he would get a job.

I turned over a card. It was bleak. And another. Bleaker. I had a strong feeling he was waiting for Lady Luck to come swooping down on him to whisk him away into an airconditioned cubicle in a swank building.

And sure enough, when asked if he had applied for a job anywhere, he said no. Written a resume? He looked away. Surfed a jobsite and he grinned sheepishly.

Which is when we sat and discussed how a Tarot reading or an astro prediction can help him only to a degree, the balance effort would need to be done by him.

A simple rephrasing of the question to “How can he help himself find a job in the next 3 months” provided a lot more insights into his situation ranging from an atitudunal shift from playing out the victim to taking the challenging situation and turning it into an opportunity and simply replaying his achievements to boost his self esteem.

When he left that afternoon, I noticed a subtle shift in his energies. He appeared eager to contact placement agents, and rewrite his resume. And when he called 2 months later to tell me he’d been hired by a MNC I knew he was enroute to success and wished him well.

The beautiful thing about the planets and the cards is that they can tell us the planetary position is favourable or the time is right for us to move in a certain direction. They cannot rule our lives. Nor can they type out resumes or set interviews for us. At the end of the day, we have to help ourselves if we want to get ahead.

Mita Bhan

How to Lose the Love of Your Life

12 Tuesday May 2015

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In the past week I’ve read 5 women with the same problem.

“We were the perfect couple, everything was fine in fact wonderful for the first 6 months of our relationship and then he began to avoid me. Today he doesn’t even answer my calls. Why?”

Many of us have been through this mysterious phase in our relationships where after a period of hot, hot chemistry and connection, things suddenly freeze up. Until a point where we are shut out of someone special’s life with absolutely no answers. Very often I meet puzzled young women in a similar state who just want to know why it happened.

Here’s a few reasons why he may have retreated

  1. You began to mother him too much. As women we tend to nurture our loved ones and show our feelings by caring for their needs, cooking for them, checking to see if they are okay, making sure their cupboards were stocked. Flattering at first, most men seem to run from this kind of maternal behaviour. Remember, he has a mother and doesn’t need another one. Refrain from smothering him and realize he is a big boy who can take care of himself.
  2. Expecting a deeper commitment. After a point when things get intimate, comfortable and so right every woman starts to want to settle down. Men, however prefer to wait a little longer till they pop the question or think about marriage. You may have begun to drop hints, persuade him to meet your parents, talk about the future too soon in the relationship. Wait for the right moment and start the topic of a marriage as a discussion or dialogue, listen to his views before you begin to gently persuade him to tie the knot.
  3. Who, what, why, where. Though it’s nice to know about our loved ones, there’s a fine line between curiosity and concern and downright interrogation. After a point any man no matter how much in love with you he is, will want his freedom. And may begin to rebel where your questions are concerned, or avoid you altogether instead of answering the questions.
  4. His feelings were just not that intense. Many a times we realize the relationship just isn’t working out. Somewhere there may be a conflict of interest, or a sense of boredom creeping in, or something else may catch our fancy. Painful as it sounds it does happen. And few men will actually tell you that they don’t feel as strongly about you as they did, or that your stories about your relatives are beginning to get annoying.

Though closure is the ideal way to end of a relationship, most men would prefer to avoid the goodbye altogether and move on, hoping you’ve got the hint. My advice, try for a closure to find out why it may have happened. And if he still doesn’t respond, hang up and move on. Who knows, he may not have been the love of your life at all.

Mita Bhan

How to Lose the Love of Your Life

12 Tuesday May 2015

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“We were the perfect couple, everything was fine in fact wonderful for the first 6 months of our relationship and then he began to avoid me. Today he doesn’t even answer my calls. Why?”

Many of us have been through this mysterious phase in our relationships where after a period of hot, hot chemistry and connection, things suddenly freeze up. Until a point where we are shut out of someone special’s life with absolutely no answers. Very often I meet puzzled young women in a similar state who just want to know why it happened.

Here’s a few reasons why he may have retreated

  1. You began to mother him too much. As women we tend to nurture our loved ones and show our feelings by caring for their needs, cooking for them, checking to see if they are okay, making sure their cupboards were stocked. Flattering at first, most men seem to run from this kind of maternal behaviour. Remember, he has a mother and doesn’t need another one. Refrain from smothering him and realize he is a big boy who can take care of himself.
  2. Expecting a deeper commitment. After a point when things get intimate, comfortable and so right every woman starts to want to settle down. Men, however prefer to wait a little longer till they pop the question or think about marriage. You may have begun to drop hints, persuade him to meet your parents, talk about the future too soon in the relationship. Wait for the right moment and start the topic of a marriage as a discussion or dialogue, listen to his views before you begin to gently persuade him to tie the knot.
  3. Who, what, why, where. Though it’s nice to know about our loved ones, there’s a fine line between curiosity and concern and downright interrogation. After a point any man no matter how much in love with you he is, will want his freedom. And may begin to rebel where your questions are concerned, or avoid you altogether instead of answering the questions.
  4. His feelings were just not that intense. Many a times we realize the relationship just isn’t working out. Somewhere there may be a conflict of interest, or a sense of boredom creeping in, or something else may catch our fancy. Painful as it sounds it does happen. And few men will actually tell you that they don’t feel as strongly about you as they did, or that your stories about your relatives are beginning to get annoying.

Though closure is the ideal way to end of a relationship, most men would prefer to avoid the goodbye altogether and move on, hoping you’ve got the hint. My advice, try for a closure to find out why it may have happened. And if he still doesn’t respond, hang up and move on. Who knows, he may not have been the love of your life at all.

Mita Bhan

Love Lessons – Excerpts from Meditation

07 Thursday May 2015

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Isnt Love the most complex and compelling subject in the world?

The more I connect with the energies of Love during meditation, the more questions the Tarot answers about Love, the more I realise just how little I know about this subject. Over the past few weeks the majority of the Tarot and Psychic readings have to do about the various shades of Love in our loves. Some of you came asking about a long lost love, some wanted to know about whether they had found their soulmate, some hoped to find answers to a loveless marriage, and some just wanted to know if Love was coming into their lives. And I asked what is this thing called Love?.

Excerpts from My Meditation Journal

  1. Love comes when it wants to. Nothing and nobody on this planet can make anyone fall in love with us. And the only way we can be ready to receive love is when there’s adequate amounts of love within us. Love of self is the first step to attracting loving energies in our life. And it doesnt apply to single people alone. And it has nothing to do with being selfish or changing our wardrobe. Loving oneself begins with honouring who we are from inside, accepting our light and our shadow and becoming willing to operate from a source of strength and not fear.
  1. Love is not about changing the other person. Impossible. Speaking from personal experience, the minute I believe someone can be ‘rescued’ I am entering into heartbreak highway with no exit signs on the side. Love is about acceptance. You are perfect as you are. Just say it to a loved one and see how liberating it feels.
  1. Love is addictive, it is a high and all we do is hold on to the memory, the look, the connection. Our whole lives are spent searching for that happy high. But Love is not a drug for the low times. Love is oxygen, all around us from the time before we were born and it will endure for a long time after we die. The first step in learning about Love is becoming aware of the amount of Love already in our lives. By focussing on why she left or what he feels restricts our joy in Love. Love exists in so many shades, and in so many places. Discover what you love doing for instance is a way of tapping into the forces of Love. I’ve seen faces light up when I ask them “What do you love doing?” and someone says “golf” or “singing” or “I used to really love dancing” Or in my case “writing”

And finally as I try desperately to write more on the subject I remember the song “You Cant Hurry Love” by Phil Collins from the 80’s and laugh, because there is no crash course in Love and it’s taken me 40 years to reach to this point.

Mita Bhan

The Little Indian Girl

03 Sunday May 2015

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“Only when every shred of inoccence is ripped out of us do we realise the truth about our men.
The little girl in all of us cries one final time, wipes her tears and looks at him straight in the eye.
and asks just one question.
Why. ”

As I write this to you, a baby girl is being buried alive in a village nearby. Or being stepped on by a village elder because she was born a girl. Or being raped while she barely walks by a man who believes his Herpes will be cured if he penetrates her. And if she’s not being hurt physically, she’s facing his wrath, his “superiority” and seeing through his lies.

Here’s a video that makes me cry everytime I see it. Deep down I do know that the Indian woman has had enough, she’s rising up again, and even though it may take a few generations, it will happen.