The cards seemed to nod and assured her he still loved her.
“When will he return?”
The card of Patience loomed large. It could take several weeks or months for him to realise just how much she meant to him. And he would need some time and space to actually understand his own heart. Let him be. Let him explore his own heart and soul and realise that you are the one.
“Whatttt???? Why can’t he hurry up?????”
The cards chose to be silent, and in the background crooned Phil Collins.
“You can’t hurry love No, you’ll just have to wait She said “love don’t come easy But it’s a game of give and take” You can’t hurry love, no you’ll just have to wait“
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Love is the most powerful, positive and all encompassing energy there is. It cannot be confined to labels and spaces, it just is. And what better day than today to celebrate all the shades of Love. Happy Valentine’s Day all 🙂
My mom only had one eye. I hated her… She was such an embarrassment. She cooked for students and teachers to support the family.
There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to say hello to me. I was so embarrassed.
How could she do this to me? I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out. The next day at school one of my classmates said, “EEEE, your mom only has one eye!”
I wanted to bury myself. I also wanted my mom to just disappear. I confronted her that day and said, “If you’re only gonna make me a laughing stock, why don’t you just die?”
My mom did not respond… I didn’t even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because I was full of anger. I was oblivious to her feelings.
I wanted out of that house, and have nothing to do with her. So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study.
Then, I got married. I bought a house of my own. I had kids of my own. I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts. Then one day, my Mother came to visit me. She hadn’t seen me in years and she didn’t even meet her grandchildren.
When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her, and I yelled at her for coming over uninvited. I screamed at her, “How dare you come to my house and scare my children! GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!”
And to this, my mother quietly answered, “Oh, I’m so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address.” – and she disappeared out of sight.
One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house. So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip. After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity.
My neighbors said that she died. I did not shed a single tear. They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.
“My dearest son,
I think of you all the time. I’m sorry that I came to your house and scared your children.
I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion. But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you. I’m sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were growing up.
You see……..when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye. As a mother, I couldn’t stand watching you having to grow up with one eye. So I gave you mine.
I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye.
Saraswati, the goddess of wisdom and learning, artwork by Raja Ravi Varma
During one of his travels, Kalidasa felt very thirsty and looked around for water. He saw a woman drawing water from a well. He went up to her and asked her for water. She agreed to give him water, but asked him, “Who are you? Introduce yourself.”
Now Kalidasa thought that an ordinary village woman was not worthy of knowing who Kalidasa was. So he said, “I am a traveller.” But his lady replied, “In this world there are only 2 travellers – the Sun and the Moon. Both Rise and Set every day and keep travelling perpetually.”
Then Kalidasa said, “Alright then, I am a guest.” The lady promptly replied, “In this world there are only 2 guests – Youth and Wealth … both are temporary and hence can only be called as guests.”
Intrigued Kalidasa said, “I am a Tolerant person (sahansheel vyakti).” Now the lady replied, “In this world only 2 truly know the meaning of Tolerance – Bhoomi (Earth) and Tree. How much ever you stamp the earth or throw stones at the tree (for the fruits), both continue to nurture us.”
Now Kalidasa was completely perplexed. He said, “Fine. I am a stubborn person (hatavaadi).” The lady smiled and said, “There are only 2 truly stubborn personalities – our nails and our hair. We keep cutting them non-stop, but they continue to grow.”
Kalidasa had been patient so far, but now in anger he said, “I am a fool”. Now the lady gave a wide smile and said, “There are only 2 kinds of fools in this world – a King who rules without having any capability or knowledge & a Minister who is a sycophant to such a King and lavishes praises on such a useless king.”
Kalidasa realised that he had been outsmarted. He fell at the feet of the lady and when he touched her feet and then got up, whom did he see? Mata Saraswati – the Goddess of Learning and Wisdom. She said, “Kalidasa, you are wise. But only if you know yourself do you become a Manushya (human being). A person without any awareness of self has not reached the pinnacle of being a Human.
Note: The Guru who recounted this story in His Pravachan said, “Children should become a Manushya & know themselves. More than teaching them how to earn more money and become rich, parents should teach them to become aware of themselves and become better Human beings .”
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Aries (Mar 21 – Apr 19)
It’s all about compromise this month- giving in is essential to any relationship, and though at times it may appear to be a difficult pill to swallow, it helps a relationship to grow. You may find that you need to open your mind to changes around you. Confront your own difficulties Steer clear of malicious gossip and power plays both at work and in your personal life. Watch your temper, before you attack others, consider the consequences of your actions. Someone may treat you unfairly but it would be pointless to speak up at this point. Lie low, listen to the others perspective and understand that this is only temporary.
Taurus(Apr 20- May 20)
Take a break the cards guide you. If you’ve been working too hard and have been neglecting your or your family’s needs, take a step back and take it easy for a short while. Worry is simply a waste of energy and it’s best to go with the flow and live in the present moment. Expect delays, procrastinations and non committal people in the work place. Put your daily concerns to one side and concentrate on calming your mind and restoring your energy levels. If you’re facing problems with a loved one, perhaps it would be wise to leave the subject of dispute for a while or take a break and focus on other things. Financially things get better (but only after you let go!)
Gemini(May 21 – June 20)
If Life has been chaotic of late, just remember the worst is over. Somewhere in the turbulence of the past few weeks, you’ve learnt to understand that nothing and no one can be taken for granted. Things gradually get better this month as you find your attitude changing towards people and circumstances that are truly beyond your control. Prepare yourself for minor upheavals in the work front but also be confident knowing that you can handle it. Financially a month of gains with the promise of more.
Cancer(June 21 – July 22)
Time to take stock. Pause and look back at your achievements and your goals. Re-evaluate your life and let go of relationships and situations that no longer help your growth. Rethink your plans and prioritise your life accordingly. A good time to ask yourself how much satisfaction are you getting out of your education, career and relationships and make the necessary changes required to improve things. Singles may find a friend disclosing feelings for you, and married couples may renew bonds of commitment and love. A time for positive, constructive change, realize that if you want happiness it may be time to modify and readapt, give up or walk away.
Leo(July 23- Aug 22)
A time of increased activity is in store for you this month, starting new projects, a new career, beginning new relationships. In your rush to do new things, don’t be hasty. Be sure to check things out carefully before proceeding, impulsiveness could cost you a lot more than you think. Travel is on the cards along with sudden plans, decisions and even sudden cancellations of plans. Expect the unexpected, expect speed and don’t forget to pause before you rush into things. Singles may discover a relationship suddenly taking a turn for the better or worse, and married couples may find a sudden disclosure changes the balance of things.
Virgo(Aug 23- Sept 22)
You may find that you’ve been doing too much for others, taking on more responsibilities than necessary and are simply wearing out. Set clear boundaries around yourself about what you can do and what you cannot do for loved ones and people at work. Are you giving more of yourself than is humanly possible? The cards guide you to take time out for yourself and set your priorities. Learn to say No to people who waste your time and energy and take out some quiet time for yourself. Single people may find themselves so bogged down at work that there’s no time for play. If married, you or your mate may be overworked and simply too tired. Relax, learn to meditate and remember it’s okay to say No.
Libra(Sept 23- Oct 22)
One moment you’re on top of the world in love with one and all, and in other moments you may wish to hide and not interact at all. Take a good hard look around you and do view things objectively. Not everything is as it seems, and before you rush off to plan or fantasize, assess your current options. Go beyond face value and promises and let actions speak for themselves. Don’t allow yourself to get lulled into a false sense of security. Expect results towards the end of February.
Scorpio(Oct 23- Nov21)
Nostalgia reigns supreme. Don’t be surprised if you find yourself reminiscing about an old flame or suddenly bumping into a familiar face again. Workwise, an old colleague or an acquaintance may propose an enticing idea. Or you may get a call from your old office. And personally, expect either a family reunion or a letter or phone call from a family member you haven’t met in years. Single Scorpios may have a last fling with an exflame and those married may be wishing for their old single days again or missing an old love. Watch your tendency to go overboard with expenses.
Saggitarius(Nov 22- Dec 21)
Too much of a good thing is not a good thing ! The card of balance appears reminding you not to go overboard with excess – be it in terms of work, food, drink, anything. Establish boundaries with those who take you for granted, and decide for yourself just how much is worth giving and how much is worth keeping. Remember, balance is your key. A recurring health ailment may flare up again so watch your lifestyle. At the workplace you may find yourself swinging between days of little or no work and days when you’ll be putting in 18 hours non stop. Strive for balance this month before it takes its toll on you.
Capricon (Dec 22-Jan19)
Things are changing, just when you thought they wouldn’t. Now’s the time to put all your ideas into action, and do all the things you’d dreamed about. Action, energy, dynamism and verve are keywords for you this month. Don’t be surprised if you find your magnetic energy and intensity attracting a few admirers either. Who can resist someone who’s definitely on their way upward and onward? Expect to receive a lot of messages, be prepared to pack your bags in a moments notice and have your Plan B ready. A hectic, haywire, exciting month for singles who may suddenly find themselves admiring a number of people or being the object of affection of many. You are loved for being the special soul that you are:)
Aquarius (Jan 20- Feb 18)
Trust becomes the issue of the month for Aquarians. Be it trusting your gut, or learning to trust again in your relationships. With this card expect a number of incidents cropping up in your life based around the issue of trust. And remember while you’re trying to figure out who can you trust and how much, the Universe trusts that you will make the right choice and do the right thing. Believe in yourself, listen to your inner voice. If you feel someone doesn’t quite appear what they seem, or is promising a little too much, listen to your gut. Singles and couples may find differences of opinion with their loved ones getting too much to bear and the cards guide you to take a break and look at things objectively for a bit. Be careful in financial dealings, don’t let anyone sweet talk you with promises.
Pisces(Feb 19- Mar20)
The worst is over and things become a little better.. Hope and healing is in your hands. The more you cling to the negative memories, the more power you give them over you. Positive changes begin when you believe they will happen. A very productive month for start ups and students, your hard work will pay off in the long run. Burn off excess nervous energy with exercise. A love affair is about to begin if you allow it. It doesn’t guarantee forever but it may just be the adventure your soul needs.
Once in a deep blue moon I get the honour of reading the Ace of Cups as a response to the query if someone really loves them.
Ace of cups, the first card in the suit of emotion, Cat Eye Deck
And this rare and powerful card says yes their love for you is real. The kind of love where they can feel their own heartbeat, but yours as well. Where they lie awake thinking if you are asleep or awake at 3am.
Yes your someone really loves you:)
And thank you for allowing me to be part of the beautiful energy shift this card ushered in.
That sluggish, I do not want to get out of my blanket feeling.
The heaviness of plodding around doing morning chores with the absolute reluctance of a teenager.
This morning I woke up with the sound of the doorbell and a grey fog around my head. Call it brain fog, deprived sleep or just the Wintry blues. Everything seemed to be in slow motion until I forced myself to exercise. Just a simple 25 minute full body mobility and workout routine and the endorphins kicked in, the sun came out and my cat chasing a grape on the floor brought back a little smile.
But why did I feel like I was going to turn 100 on my next birthday?
According to the Mayo Clinic, “Winter is a dark time, so our bodies produce more melatonin in response. This leads to excessive feelings of fatigue and tiredness. The change in season can disrupt the balance of the body’s level of melatonin, which plays a role in sleep patterns and mood”
Aaah, and while simple exercise helped me, there were other ways to boost energy levels during the cold days of this season. Definetely worth practicing and sharing.
Natural Light in the morning is the best way to lift winter blues. Image from clickinmoms.com. Doctors recommend opening up your blinds and curtains upon rising to allow the maximum amount of natural light into your living space. Spending a brief time outdoors in the winter sun helps boost the sunshine Vitamin D in our bodies, acting like a natural energiser and mood uplifter. Natural light eases depression and anxiety associated with the foggy wintry days.
Pastel shades do a lot more for us than we think. Image from 123rf.com Consciously Wear Pastels. Colour therapy believes lighter colours uplift us, raise our vibration and promotes feelings of wellbeing, where as wearing colours like brown, grey and black pull us down.
Citrus notes promote clarity, concentration and energy. Image from indiamart.com. Certain essential oils when burnt in the morning or inhaled on a tissue help stimulate and energise the brain cells. Citrus aromas like Bergamot, Lime, Mandarin Orange are a few to choose apart from the trusted Basil which helps reduce fatigue and improves concentration.
Do note this tips are for the occasional case of winter blues which usually dissipate after a few hours of waking up. If you feel the tired, grey feeling lasts throughout the day or week and is affecting your personal and professional life, it would be best to meet with a doctor.
La Douleur Exquise, a French phrase for the pain of wanting the love of someone unattainable Goddess Deck, personal collection
He couldn’t help him himself. He didn’t choose to fall in love. It just happened, the only problem was she was married and leaving her spouse was simply out of the question. When I read his cards I could see the deep love he shared with her – the kind of love where happiness and sadness went hand in hand.
He was younger than her. Settled in a high paying job. Perfectly eligible for marriage himself. And his mother and aunts made sure they showed him pictures of various girls who they felt would be his Mrs Right. Most of the time he ignored them and sometimes would even shout at them for bothering him, his voice riddled in pain and frustration.
He had tried letting go. Multiple times. In multiple ways. But somehow she found her way back into his heart and once again they’d chat, or meet. And once again he’d return to his room lying awake through the night, wondering if this was his future.
His question was simple.
“Why has she come into my life if I cannot have her as my wife?”
For one second look at this question not as a human being. But as a soul.
Love is never limited to romantic love. Love is like an umbrella encapsulating the different shades of love. And if we as souls want to experience the true meaning of Love, we need to experience every aspect of love. The joy, the pain, the longing, the peace. In lifetime after lifetime. Be it unrequited love, sibling love, platonic love, romantic love, spiritual love. Each lifetime brings a different scenario, a different learning. Lessons would be repeated until the learning was complete. And the advanced lessons would get harder.
“So what is my Soul Learning?” he asked
To accept and not resist. Love is harmony. Love is being at peace. First with ourselves and then with the other. A part of you still struggles and suffers this way. Make peace with the side of you that cries in pain. Begin to fall in love with yourself. Which part of you brings you the greatest happiness, which part of you still struggles. Embrace the shadows, find completion in yourself. Accept yourself wholly.
“And then……”
When you accept your self, you accept the other unconditionally and the situation for what it is in reality, not the way you would like it to be, something we all do when we fall in love. We think of “what if” “why isn’t it? instead of appreciating the greatest lesson in life. Love.
“You mean love her unconditionally but ….wouldn’t it would hurt so much…”his voice broke for a second.
The feeling of love we all seek, does not lie in the receiving. It exists in the giving.
“I get it”
The deck was closed. The lesson learnt. For not just the young seeker in love, but also his old Tarot card reader.
