Today I heard about the passing of an old Cherokee medicine woman who I met way back in 2001. Probably one of the wisest people I’ve ever met. I consulted her when I had quit the corporate world and my last boss disclosed to me that he had stolen my personal file from my desk to hinder my future job search. While I was relieved to know what happened to that file, I was also angry and deeply disappointed by his petty act. I knew I wanted to be self employed but I couldn’t shake off the anger I felt for him. I will never forget her words of wisdom.
“Do not curse those who curse you, belittle you, or harm you. Bless them. For what you send out will return three times over back to you. And the negativity they send out will return three times over back to them”
It took months of inner work. Whenever I felt hurt by his act of jealousy and sabotage I worked hard to not send him negativity, which was easier and oh so tempting. I sent him good wishes and surrendered to the laws of karma.
Looking back I realised the importance of her words. As individuals we can not please everyone. There will always be someone who’s unhappy and threatened by the people we are. They will criticise, tear us down, block our paths and the temptation to drop down to their levels will arise, but the best way forward for peace is to resonate at a higher vibration. Send them love, send them light, send them forgiveness and focus on your own path.
Rest in Peace dear Anna. Your words of wisdom will stay on forever.
I loved this interpretation of Prayer.* What is a prayer? Prayer doesn’t just happen when we kneel or put our hands together and focus and expect things from God. *Thinking positive and wishing good for others is a prayer.* When you hug a friend. *That’s a prayer.* When you cook something to nourish family and friends. *That’s a prayer.* When we send off our near and dear ones and say, ‘drive safely’ or ‘be safe’. *That’s a prayer.* When you are helping someone in need by giving your time and energy. *You are praying.* When you forgive someone by your heart. *That is prayer.* *Prayer is a vibration. A feeling. A thought. Prayer is the voice of love, friendship, genuine relationships. Prayer is an expression of your silent being.* – Author Unknown
The Yin Yang Symbol. Everything has to come back to balance.
I still remember the first time she came for a session. Tears and rage burned in her eyes covering a deep wound in her heart.
“I want revenge. He’s seeing someone from his office romantically. AGAIN”
The Tarot confirmed an affair, but she knew it already. Women always know. The cards pointed at a narcissistic spouse, one who lived purely for himself, playing absent father to his 2 children and blaming this lady for all his misery. The kind who sing softly about their wives follies behind their back to sympathetic ears and bosoms. Her anger was beyond that. She didn’t care what he was telling his lovers, she only wanted him to feel her pain.
“This is not the first time. And this one won’t be the last. I don’t want to tell him I know this time. I only want revenge” She covered her face and wept in shame, the tears of a woman who’d never taken revenge before in her life.
“The last time he had an affair and I found out he promised to keep this marriage going for the sake of the children. Why did he break his vows? I want him to repent”
The messages she received urged her to find peace among her loved ones. Her friends and family her pets. To soak up all the unconditional love she possibly could. She needed to be strong first with those who loved her.
” This is a karmic relationship. Don’t get into the negative zone. No need for revenge, let karma do it for you.”
I could see she wasn’t convinced. But karma is like that. We don’t really believe in it until we’re hit by the impact of a karmic relationship. We like to believe it’s outside us, but somewhere in some way we too are responsible for creating a karmic situation where the pain cuts so deep, it almost seems unhealable.
“Forgive him and move on with your life”
I didn’t hear from her again till a few days ago when this came in the mail.
“Just wanted to say thank you for being the only one who told me not take revenge on my cheating husband and let karma only decide what his fate is. Everyone else gave me so many remedies to bring him closer, to destroy the other woman but nothing has worked. Some people even predicted that he would destroy himself. But I dont want to hurt him the way he has hurt me and my children. This IS a karmic relationsip, And then I remembered what your cards said to forgive him and move on. It is very very hard and has been a very painful journey to let go of the abuse and the adultery. But I am getting there. One night I felt so light because I had forgiven him and no longer began to feel any need to take revenge. I found the strength to live my own life and be a mother and father to my teenaged children. He is facing his own karma. His children do not want to be with him anymore. I have found so much strength with my friends and my family. Please share my story so others can learn please say a prayer for me”
Many prayers to you my brave lady. You have demonstrated what very few of us have achieved in this lifetime. The willingness and the ability to forgive the person who has hurt you the most. I pray you find greater strength and peace as a soul.
If you’ve read this far, please say a prayer for this lady.
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For privacy sake, no names and details will ever be revealed, case studies are shared for all of us to learn from.
Every now and then someone up there sends me someone so divine to meet for half an hour, or even half a minute and my life is transformed forever. Random people – clients, patients,neighbors, acquaintances…. – old, young, male, female – people who are just so likeable. Soooooo likeable. They have a glow around them. A certain purity. A rare ability to stay for long periods of time in the present moment. And a certain magical air about them.
Whenever I do get blessed by the presence of these souls, or they help me just when I need them, I thank and ask God to bless them for their ability to spread happiness. What’s even more beautiful is some of them don’t even know they have such a lovely gift. Such people are angels in disguise.
Think of the angels who you’ve met. Thank them:) And pray there be many more such angels in disguise on our planet. We could all do with a few more, don’t you think?:)
Oh it’s good to be home. Carrying memories in my heart of the people I met and the places I’ve seen. And one of the images that will always remain in my heart is the rock of Delphi, right outside the Temple of Apollo in Greece. Where thousands of years ago, the Sybils or High Priestess sat delivering the oracle to weary pilgrims who came far and wide seeking answers from the other world.
The marble is slippery and the stairway is worn out after thousands of years of use. The ruins stand testimony to a time and a place in history that has influenced the entire world. And if you want to know about the energy, there’s still power and peace to be found on the grassy slopes of the Parnassos Mountain. An energy that speaks of acceptance, becoming a better person, of compassion and tolerance.
As I walked around the rock, I tried to imagine a lady in white robes sitting there lost in her thoughts surrounded by scribes and interpretors who’d translate her cryptic messages to the pilgrims and the travellers who came from far and wide for her answers. I closed my eyes and felt the breeze upon my face happy in the fact I had nothing to ask because I knew nothing. I was content just being there.
“The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.” Socrates
How many of you have kept journals or diaries while
growing up? Books that contained your most private of thoughts and most
precious of words that reflected your inner self at its most authentic, pure
and peaceful level.
How did you feel during writing? Peaceful, still
inside, oblivious to the sounds and the chaos around you. And so relieved to
just get the words out.
Your probably didn’t know it then, but you were meditating during the act of writing. Finding the little spot of peace within you. Finding answers. In a place or environment of stillness.
Meditative writing is a form of meditation where in
you can either:
Get
into a meditative state before you pick up your pen or strike the key board and
allow your subconscious mind to direct you.
Become one with your pen and keyboard and make
the whole process one of peaceful expression
Benefits of Meditative Writing
Greater
clarity. When you write down your thoughts and see them on paper or on the
screen. Meditative writing helps you to relax and see things clearly.
One
route on your journey to self discovery
Slows
down the mind and breath to the pace of the pen/kb giving space n expression to
the subconscious mind.
Allows
you to stay in the present moment, builds greater self awareness.
Great
release for unexpressed/suppressed emotions like anger, resentment, sadness,
grief
Brings
out challenges and helps you find your own solutions.
Refreshing,
its like rebooting your mind
Powerful
tool to stretch your mind, can be done anytime and anywhere
Record
of your own emotional/spiritual growth
Healing tool, used successfully
for those who have suffered a trauma or long term illness
How you can do Meditative Writing
To begin keeping a meditation journal, first pick out a nice notebook and a pen or pencil that suits your style. It is important for us to like the feel of the pen, and the look of the notebook and paper. These kinds of things may seem insignificant and unimportant, but they are like the subtle qualities in the food we prepare or the clothes we wear – they reflect who we are, and what our tastes are, so if we choose them carefully, we will be more inspired by them and inclined to write down our daily observations and insights.
Keep the journal nearby, and begin by always writing entries before and after meditation. Even if you just write a sentence, it is a good exercise to get you in the habit of putting some of your feelings and thoughts on the page. Later you can set aside time, just as you set aside meditation time, to write about your meditation practice in more detail. Or you may be satisfied to just write longer entries at the end of your meditation sessions.
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If you’d like to participate in a Meditative Writing workshop in September or enrol in an email course write to me at mita.bhan@gmail.com
Self Love is not One Size Fits All. The journey differs for each individual yet the goal is common. If we all love ourselves, we learn to love each other.
It is not a one time practice. It’s a daily practice be it in the form of prayer, affirmation, meditation, exercise – self love and self care is a continuous discovery of ourselves through the good, the bad and the ugly within us.
Self Love can no longer be ignored. The wounded will always wound the other. Until we embrace and heal our own wounds we will always hurt inside and consciously/unconsciously hurt another. No need for detail here, just follow the News to see what is happening.
Self Love is acknowledging our own toxic traits and working on them.
It’s much much more than choosing the right make up and colour highlight it’s a continuous journey inwards and feeling right.
Though it is important to have “me” it is equally important to recognise that eventually it’s about “we”. The better my relationship with my innerself, the better my relationship with any other being on this planet.
Q “There’s a weird low level anxiety in the bottom of my stomach that’s constant. I’m unhappy because somewhere I feel I’m missing the mark. I should be doing something with my Life. I mean why was I born. I’m only doing this freelance project to make my parents happy but this is not me. They don’t understand what’s happening to me. They’ve both worked hard to reach where they have. When I graduated a few years ago, I started a business to do something for the environment but it failed. I want to start another business around recycling plastic items but I’m scared of failing again. What clues can you give me about my Life Purpose?”
A
The low level anxiety you feel is your own inner self telling you not to hide behind the screen but to go out to Nature, where you feel happiest, where you are most inspired to make a difference. One failure doesn’t define who you are and what you could be born to do. And clearly it is to do something for our planet….
No one can tell you exactly why you were born. And not every Life Purpose is a vocation. You’ve been given clues all your life. And your biggest clue is happiness. For an indepth look at your life purpose and the clues the Tarot could bring your way, get in touch with me at mita.bhan@gmail.com for details
