Be mindful about your relationships this week. Pay attention to how your energy feels around certain people. Take note of your feelings. Everyone who is in your life right now is meant to be there. Either as a blessing. Or as a teacher, to remind you of certain life lessons you may need to learn right now. Is it tolerance, humility, compassion, respect or even detachment? No one is going to change for you, only you will, when you realise why they may be in your life at the moment – bringing you joy or bringing you pain. There are no accidents in the Universe. Everyone and everything has a place and reason. It’s upto us to figure it out.
Sometimes we have to work at moving on and letting go of a toxic relationship or memory. Sometimes it just happens for us. Call it karmic clearing. Call it release. Whatever it was it leaves behind only peace
Why do some relationships drive us crazy with anger and frustration? How come some people know your explode button? Why was there such an intense attraction initially and now only pain? Chances are that you’ve shared a past life wounding or trauma with this person (a romantic partner/family member/coworker) and certain life lessons need to be learnt for both of you to reach a space of harmony through deeper self understanding and inner work leading to the fulfilment of our soul mission.
Pay it forward. Think about all the people who helped you when you needed a hand. The Airlines Security Guard who held your squirming toddler while you stowed away the stroller. The Lady who gave you a hand when you slipped in the pond. The Teacher who tied your shoe laces after you scraped your knee. People who encouraged you and helped you back up and accepted you as you are.
Sometimes we can’t pay their kindness back to them. But we can acknowledge what they have done for us and pay the kindness forward. To someone who may need it. With a compliment. A helping hand. A kind word. A little support.
Like energies, Tarot readings also go through phases. In the past month or so, the majority of my sessions have had to do with workplace issues, namely bosses.
Here are a few examples :
“I have no problems with my spouse or my friends. But the minute I walk into work I feel uneasy with my boss. Why has this happened throughout my career? “
“She’s so uncommunicative with me, will keep all matters secret until the last minute and I end up staying back late and confused with her hurried instructions. I cannot perform. How do I deal with a Boss like her?”
“He puts me down in front of my team in meetings. It is humiliating and frustrating to work under his supervision. What can I expect if I quit this company?”
“Why have I always had insecure immediate bosses who never let me grow throughout my career?”
“I love my job but I cannot work with my Boss. He micromanages my whole life? How can I find peace and balance?”
Throughout our careers we will work with a variety of people. And like all relationships, there will be harmonious ones, and some that are downright unpleasant, uncomfortable and the reason for quitting. Most of the times it’s an issue with the Boss, either an immediate superior or the level above. Someone with whom the interaction is more frequent and uncomfortable, demotivating, unpleasant or draining. In such cases the chances of a karmic connection are revealed in a session, along with the suggestions on how to deal with the situation.
With each case being unique, with each lesson differing from soul to soul, the levels of Karma differ. Some may have an extremely stressful relationship with one particular boss and then move on to a place of harmony either with the superior or with other bosses. Where some may face difficult bosses in all their jobs throughout their career. What could be the lesson?
I would also like to add, that not all boss karma is tough or stressful. Some may have been blessed with true leaders as Bosses and have shared a mutually enriching relationship. The karmic lesson would then be to carry the blessing forward, knowing how to treat others when you become a Boss.
Situations will always vary, but like all relationships there will always be a lesson to learn and to grow from. Be it from a good boss or a challenging one.
For an indepth look at your work relationships, do get in touch for a session. Email/Whatsapp me at firstname.lastname@example.org/9810138315
A beautiful explanation on Karmic relationship by Vijay Reddy –
“The relationship that drives people crazy with anger and frustration are from a past life. These are the people who really get under your skin and exasperate you endlessly. Very often, these karmic relationships are with people in your immediate family.
Karmic relationships mean that you’ve had prior lifetimes with this person, and you both were sent back to be together to work things out peacefully. This was your soul’s choice, although it was probably highly pushed upon you by your guides and angels who helped you script out much of your life. Usually a karmic relationship is someone with whom you had a battle or other harsh circumstances. You returned together in this lifetime to ensure that you’d work things out, and clear both of your energies.
If you don’t clear the energies in this lifetime, you’ll be pressured to continue to incarnate with this soul again and again and again.
And each lifetime, his or her relationship to you will continue to be close, either through genetics and familial bonds, or through friendship, marriage, or career. So, that annoying co-worker could be your mother or husband next lifetime unless you clear the energy with her in this one.
You’re brought together with the other soul so that you can forgive him or her. This doesn’t mean forgiving their actions. It means detoxing your soul by releasing anger toward them. You don’t have to hang out with the person, but you do need to release old pent-up toxic feelings. Holding in old anger is caustic and unhealthful.
It’s also a waste of time and energy to blame that person for family dramas and your own upset. Blaming is a projection of our ego, where we don’t own our own shadows and ego issues, and we put them in the basket labeled: “It’s their fault.” And while it may be true that that person is the instigator of traumas, blaming him or her doesn’t help the situation and doesn’t balance the karma between you.
Breaking the Karmic Cycle
The first step to break this karmic cycle is for you to take responsibility for its presence in your life. Your soul agreed to be with this person because it was necessary for your spiritual progress. So forgiving yourself is the ultimate secret to healing everything in all directions of time.
This involves forgiving yourself for entering this relationship whenever you did in the distant past lifetime. You probably were given red-flag warnings by your angels then, which you chose to ignore or override. Forgive yourself for ignoring those red flags, and vow to listen from now on. Life lessons only count if we learn from them.
You get infuriated by how this person behaves. But this is how this individual’s personality works and has always worked. You were the one who chose to try to be in a relationship with him or her long, long ago. You were the one who decided that all of those red flags that your angels sent you didn’t matter. You were the one who decided that you could change or fix the person.
Now it’s time to let go of that fantasy that this person could be as you desire or dream him or her to be. You’re not the other person’s Source, nor are you the author of his or her life scripts.
Karmic relationships are akin to having a tug-of-war. They’re power plays, where one person will pull and the other person will pull back. No one wins in karmic power plays. But when one person drops his or her side of the rope (through the process of forgiving him- or herself for getting into this tug-of-war in the first place), the power struggle stops.
Use prayers for forgiveness for other and self. Saying bless you to the soul. Find reasons to be grateful. Learn the lessons by asking them to be revealed.
For so many years my shadow floated by on the tiny waves
For you to return
Remembering your words promising to not forget me
Or all of us here
Who lived and breathed
and walked this road
Until we heard only Silence
Each night our souls whirled around on the tips of the dark green water peering over the shoulders of the waves
Waiting for their special someone to return,
And for me, it was you.
All thirteen years of you standing there with your parents.
When I heard your voice read out my name aloud
I cried into the water
And soon we were all floating on the tearful waves
listening to your sweet shrill Indian accent
Reading aloud each and every one of our names
You didn’t forget
And while the other shadows have drifted to sleep I shall float along
these deep green waves waiting
For you to return with your wife and children.
—-Lest We Forget——-
While exploring the Jewish quarter of Amsterdam on a family vacation my son felt compelled to walk down the quiet road by the canal in Nieuwe Keizersgracht. He ran up to the plaques on the banks of the canal and called out to us to see and hear him say out the names out loud individually while he folded his hands in prayer. We discovered we were at the Schaduwwade memorial listing names on the plaques opposite their homes of more than 200 Jewish residents of Nieuwe Keizersgracht who were killed during WW2 . And thank God for sending us a reminder to never forget.
I’ve been telling her what to do and now she’s got herself a job in another city
And all she’s done since she’s reached there is complain about the people and then shout at me.
Why is she suffering?
A : She’s learning the lesson of Tolerance and Patience. What you’ve been telling her for the past 25 years to learn, Life will teach her in minutes.
Q : I always tell her to get along with all kinds of people , to overlook differences, to be respectful of another’s culture or religion, to just hang in there and understand the way they communicate before jumping to conclusions. Still, all she does is criticise and complain and sulk around people.
A : It’s her lesson. Not yours. You’ve done your best. Just let go.
(one second later)
Q: I was wondering now that the kids are grown up, if I should go on that cruise I was reading about. A few of my friends are planning to travel in a couple of months…..