One day, on the plains of Africa, a young buffalo named Walter approached his dad and asked him if there was anything that he should be afraid of.
“Only lions my son,” his dad responded.
“Oh yes, I’ve heard about lions. If I ever see one, I’ll turn and run as fast as I can,” said Walter.
“No, that’s the worst thing you can do,” said the large male.
“Why? They are scary and will try to kill me.”
The dad smiled and explained, “Walter, if you run away, the lions will chase you and catch you. And when they do, they will jump on your unprotected back and bring you down.”
“So what should I do?” asked Walter.
“If you ever see a lion, stand your ground to show him that you’re not afraid. If he doesn’t move away, show him your sharp horns and stomp the ground with your hooves. If that doesn’t work, move slowly towards him. If that doesn’t work, charge him and hit him with everything you’ve got!”
“That’s crazy, I’ll be too scared to do that. What if he attacks me back?” said the startled young buffalo.
“Look around, Walter. What do you see?”
Walter looked around at the rest of his herd. There were about 200 massive beasts all armed with sharp horns and huge shoulders.
“If ever you’re afraid, know that we are here. If you panic and run from your fears, we can’t save you, but if you charge towards them, we’ll be right behind you.”
The young buffalo breathed deeply and nodded.
“Thanks dad, I think I understand.”
We all have lions in our worlds.
There are aspects of life that scare us and make us want to run, but if we do, they will chase us down and take over our lives. Our thoughts will become dominated by the things that we are afraid of and our actions will become timid and cautious, not allowing us to reach our full potential. – Darren Poke, Betterlifecoaching blog
Sometimes in relationships, one partner wants a little time for himself or herself. Time to introspect, process their emotions, or focus on studies or work. Most often enough the other partner panics a little, fearing the loss of the relationship and starts to frantically message the person, and if ignored they turn to readers, to find out why he or she is not responding to their texts, or if they are leaving them for good.
With the Tarot in cases like the these, the message is always the same. Leave them be. If someone truly loves you they won’t forget you and your importance in their life. Just like fields are left fallow for a while to nourish and strengthen the soil, souls too need a little ‘time out” to recharge their batteries and gain perspective. Understand and respect their need for space. Trust that things will work out. By messaging them repeatedly we only end up creating tension in the space and sometimes it drives the person further away.
Just let go, give them the space. Make them miss you.
They’ll come back when the time is right.
Copyright Mita Bhan 2018. All Rights Reserved
Don’t search for the perfect one.
Don’t ask when, or who, or where.
Don’t look for love.
Let Love find you.
Let it’s mysterious energy knock you off your feet.
And that IS going to happen the day you stop looking and enjoy your present state.
Understand that the reason you are alone right now is because you’re meant to focus on other things, learn other lessons of Life and to tap into your inner self. And find the love within you. Anyone else would merely be a distraction. Yes it feels like forever till they come, but it’s not. Forever is letting Love grow inside you and someday, suddenly, appear in front of you.
A successful business man was growing old and knew it was time to choose a successor to take over the business.
Instead of choosing one of his Directors or his children, he decided to do something different. He called all the young executives in his company together.
He said, “It is time for me to step down and choose the next CEO. I have decided to choose one of you..”
The young executives were Shocked, but the boss continued. “I am going to give each one of you a SEED today – one very special SEED… I want you to plant the seed, water it, and come back here one year from today with what you have grown from the seed I have given you. I will then judge the plants that you bring, and the one I choose will be the next CEO.”
One man, named Jim, was there that day and he, like the others, received a seed. He went home and excitedly, told his wife the story. She helped him get a pot, soil and compost and he planted the seed. Everyday, he would water it and watch to see if it had grown. After about three weeks, some of the other executives began to talk about their seeds and the plants that were beginning to grow.
Jim kept checking his seed, but nothing ever grew.
Three weeks, four weeks, five weeks went by, still nothing.
By now, others were talking about their plants, but Jim didn’t have a plant and he felt like a failure.
Six months went by — still nothing in Jim’s pot. He just knew he had killed his seed. Everyone else had trees and tall plants, but he had nothing. Jim didn’t say anything to his colleagues, however.
He just kept watering and fertilizing the soil – He so wanted the seed to grow.
A year finally went by and all the young executives of the company brought their plants to the CEO for inspection.
Jim told his wife that he wasn’t going to take an empty pot. But she asked him to be honest about what happened. Jim felt sick to his stomach, it was going to be the most embarrassing moment of his life, but he knew his wife was right. He took his empty pot to the board room. When Jim arrived, he was amazed at the variety of plants grown by the other executives. They were beautiful — in all shapes and sizes. Jim put his empty pot on the floor and many of his colleagues laughed, a few felt sorry for him!
When the CEO arrived, he surveyed the room and greeted his young executives.
Jim just tried to hide in the back. “My, what great plants, trees, and flowers you have grown,” said the CEO. “Today one of you will be appointed the next CEO!”
All of a sudden, the CEO spotted Jim at the back of the room with his empty pot. He ordered the Financial Director to bring him to the front. Jim was terrified. He thought, “The CEO knows I’m a failure! Maybe he will have me fired!”
When Jim got to the front, the CEO asked him what had happened to his seed – Jim told him the story.
The CEO asked everyone to sit down except Jim. He looked at Jim, and then announced to the young executives, “Behold your next Chief Executive Officer!
His name is Jim!” Jim couldn’t believe it. Jim couldn’t even grow his seed.
“How could he be the new CEO?” the others said.
Then the CEO said, “One year ago today, I gave everyone in this room a seed. I told you to take the seed, plant it, water it, and bring it back to me today. But I gave you all boiled seeds; they were dead – it was not possible for them to grow.
All of you, except Jim, have brought me trees and plants and flowers. When you found that the seed would not grow, you substituted another seed for the one I gave you. Jim was the only one with the courage and honesty to bring me a pot with my seed in it. Therefore, he is the one who will be the new Chief Executive Officer!”
* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust
* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends
* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness
* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment
* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective
* If you plant hard work, you will reap success
* If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation
* If you plant faith in God, you will reap a harvest
So, be careful what you plant now; it will determine what you will reap later.
Image from http://www.littlegardeners.co.uk
Every one of us on this planet is blessed in some way. Though at times we may not know it, or even believe it, we are. The greatest blessing is the gift of life. Following that comes other blessings in our life from the basic (food, shelter, our loved ones) to more unique ones, like a gift or skill we may possess.
We all know that counting our blessings is perhaps the fastest way to usher in positive energy when we need it. But how many of us bless others for being in our lives, for caring for us, and being there when we need them. Blessing others is not something to be practised by our elders but by all of us on a regular basis. When we consciously appreciate another person we bless them, and we wish for good things to come their way. And promote the cycle of positivity and abundance. When we go a step further and bless those who have hurt us, or wronged us we break the chain of negative energy that flows from us or towards us. And replace it with a positive stream of energy.
After all, what we give out comes back to us.
“It’s not fair. I’ve been a good person! I’ve never hurt anyone purposely. Then WHY is he doing this to me!!”
She was angry, anxious and from the tone of her voice I could tell she was exasperated by her ex husband’s behaviour. She had thought seperation would have brought her peace, but he continued to hurt her in petty ways periodically, and she was unable to move on from the hurt he caused.
The cards did reveal a gentle soul who was here to learn certain lessons. Not as a form of punishment, but as way forward into greater growth. Pain would be the gateway to higher learning, like it is for all of us. With wisdom comes peace.
“Your lesson is one of endurance” In others words you capacity to withstand wear and tear. Like muscles that cry out in pain during strength training, with repeated use, our muscles get stronger and can handle heavier loads.
She looked up and met my eyes. “You mean, how much can I take.”
“Yes, and every time he attacks you with his behaviour or his words, you only get stronger. PROVIDED you LEARN why he’s doing it to you. By staying stuck with the pain, your soul stays where it is, by understanding his role in your life…..
“To make me self reliant, stronger and to learn to live with out him. I get it, he came to teach me how to live alone. And because I was so clingy and afraid, he would hurt me, until I learnt”
Sometimes souls dont even know they are here to be our teachers. Unconsciously they behave in a certain way or say things which hurt us. That hurt we feel, is the key to our growth. Our focus ought not to be on the wrong but on the lesson. And it begins the moment we start to ask why.
Her anger had subsided. I could see she was thinking of her life from a soul learning perspective. For one moment, she zoomed out of her life and saw herself a soul with a thousand lifetimes, growing, evolving with each experience – joyful and painful.
” I suppose the next step for me is forgiveness.”
I grinned and nodded.
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Time and time again I wipe away the tears of a woman who couldn’t help but fall in love with a married man. The initial time they spent together were heady, happy and so full of potential he promised to leave his uncaring, insensitive wife and start a new life with her. And it was these very promises he made that kept the flame of their secret love burning all this while. But like all flames that get tired of flickering and fears burning out, the woman turns to the cards for answers to her questions.
Questions reveal deep inner angst and an urgent desire for answers to questions like “though there is apparent commitment from both ends, the relationship is not moving forward because of his divorce. Why the stagnation? Why does he keep disappearing in the relationship. What do I need know about his wife? Will I fulfil my dream of marriage?” There’s another man who is really interested in me? What should I know about him? Will I lose an opportunity for happiness if things with my married friends do not end in divorce?”
And then the Tarot offers insights.
Instead of giving her dates and assurances, they bring her face to face with a side of her own self she may have been ignoring all these years. And she discovers the men who have loved her were simply too afraid to slip a ring on her finger. And it was time not to wait and hope for that gnawing feeling inside to go away, it was time to understand, heal and grow as a soul. Her married man wasn’t leaving his wife in a hurry, and it wasn’t about her in the first place it was about him fearing the stigma, fearing the pain he would cause his wife, and him fearing the deep neediness that seemed to exist in the eyes of this young woman.
The time had come in her life to go inwards and not expect the men in her life to give her the antidote to her pain.
If she chose to forget him and follow the attractions of the second man, the pattern would repeat itself. And in a couple of years time, she would be in the exact same spot, waiting for the new man to leave his wife. The lesson was not about the men, it was about her discovering her own inner strength. Which had nothing to do with a mangalsutra or a ring. Or the fact that somewhere she believed an unmarried woman is weaker. And hers was not a case of being financially dependent in the least as she was a professional success. Yes, tradition was behind this but she could no longer blame her parents, her uncles and her aunts for re-enforcing this fear. She needed to find the courage to feel that inner strength and discover that voice inside her which said “Yes I can, with or without him”
The minute we discover we are our own sources of security, we find that peace. We no longer exert pressure or expect too much from our loved ones to be with us. We give them that freedom in love. They can be who they are and want to be and all they need to know is that they are loved. Learning to relax in the present moment, to appreciate the blessings of her life would be the first steps in the journey. And the more secure she began to feel with her own self, the higher the chance of an enduring relationship with her men. Her own inner security was the key to her happiness in love.
I emailed the report with a prayer, that she understood and learned what was interpreted in her cards. Because the joy she would then discover would be greater than anyone could wish for her.
For a long time, I found it hard to truly forgive the people who had hurt me over the years. I felt that if I did forgive them, it would seem like what they did was ‘alright’, But how could their bitchiness, mockery and behaviour be ever alright? When I did think of them or bump into them, I would feel a burn in my heart. At the spot where the pain had somehow collected down the years. I’d heal the spot and carry on, but the repressed pain continued.
I’d heard of the concept of forgiveness and I honestly believed I’d let go of a lot of painful memories but last week I learnt that I hadnt. For a couple of nights I kept having nightmares of these people, as if they were ghosts from the past, appearing in my dreams, hurting me exactly the way they used to. And I made a conscious decision to do some intensive energy healing work on forgiveness.
At first it was hard, replaying the memories, remembering their faces, and feeling their icky energies all over again. But I learnt I had to, for one final time, replay it all and then let them go. Perhaps I had done something to do them consciously or unconsciously, perhaps it was unfinished karma, perhaps they were clueless that their behaviour was hurtful. Whatever it was, it had to be released.
Forgiveness was not a one sided act. It also included me. And the more I meditated, the more I saw myself in my younger years and realised how my own behaviour and words may have led to their reactions. Not only did I had to forgive them, I had to forgive myself.
The learning was almost instantaneous. During the meditations I understood, we cannot undo the past but we can make our present and our futures better. What some of them said or did was not acceptable but I had to let it go for my own healing. Forgiveness doesnt mean things would be hunky dory with them, or they would be welcomed into my heart or home, it just meant releasing an imprisoning memory. And it wouldnt have happened if I wasnt ready for it. For forgiveness to take place, we have to be ready for it, to release the memories and feel the freedom of releasing the negative energy that binds us to those people.
One of my constant grouses with living in Gurgaon is the amount of promises I get to hear from all levels of professionals and even volunteers. People who claim to do this or that and then dont! I’ve also learnt that 99% of them genuinely mean it at the time of promising but later realise it was a) unrealistic b) impossible to manage with their time schedules c) simply forget about it. And 75% of them go eerily quiet. Now that could mean “It’s not working”, “Im not interested” “I dont know how to say NO to people or admit my error in judgement”
Leaving me wondering and waiting and then feeling disappointed.
I understand it’s a lesson, in lowering expectations and then letting go of the results. And of course patience (a perennial challenge) but the other side of me wants some sort of answer. If you cant do it, say so. It will save everyone a lot of time and frustration. I make a mental note of taking the next promise with a salt shaker in hand.
And the sad part is many of these professionals will visit intuitives and ask “Why am I still struggling in my business and/or relationships?” And the answers will always point to gaps between promises and delivery.