Q : My daughter doesn’t listen to me.
I’ve been telling her what to do and now she’s got herself a job in another city
And all she’s done since she’s reached there is complain about the people and then shout at me.
Why is she suffering?
A : She’s learning the lesson of Tolerance and Patience. What you’ve been telling her for the past 25 years to learn, Life will teach her in minutes.
Q : I always tell her to get along with all kinds of people , to overlook differences, to be respectful of another’s culture or religion, to just hang in there and understand the way they communicate before jumping to conclusions. Still, all she does is criticise and complain and sulk around people.
A : It’s her lesson. Not yours. You’ve done your best. Just let go.
(one second later)
Q: I was wondering now that the kids are grown up, if I should go on that cruise I was reading about. A few of my friends are planning to travel in a couple of months…..
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Some people are just consumed by their own negativity. They seek help but then start to argue, berate, belittle the person trying to help them. They refuse to acknowledge there could be a problem in their attitude or their way of looking at things and end up draining others with their refusal to see the positive in anything. It could be their anxiety, their fear or their bitterness that blocks them from receiving help, love and advice. And they end up frustrated and leaving loved ones and even those who try to help them drained. Recognise such people and protect your energy. It’s okay to say No to them. Block them from calling. And ignore their provocations. Saying No to someone who doesn’t want to be helped is simply an act of self preservation. Your first priority is to yourself regardless of what you do for a living or how they may be related to you. If someone disturbs your levels of inner peace, just say No.
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Father parked the car, put his hand in his wallet and handed the young girl some coins.
“Go, give it to the shopkeeper and tell him it’s from me”
The young girl looked at him quizzically.
“I owed him the change from last week”, he explained.
As she took the coins she asked.
“But it’s only change Father, you don’t need to return it”
A solemn expression came over her father and for a second, he looked like someone from the black and white photographs she had seen in the family albums.
“Return whatever you owe others. Even if it’s a few coins or a few hundred thousand notes. If you can’t return all of it, start returning what you can, regularly, until the debt is cleared”
His voice sounded different, a hundred years old.
She shrugged her shoulders playfully, “What if I forget to return the money?”
“Then don’t ever be in a position where you need to borrow money.
The only person who can forget is the one who lends you the money, and that too, if he chooses”
The girl stepped out of the car and walked into the shop. There were sweets and stickers hanging from shelves at the entrance, she knew this shop well, her parents bought a lot of their daily essentials from here. The old shopkeeper smiled and she extended her hand carefully dropping the coins into his palm. He smiled and reached out for some strawberry candy, her favourite!
As she skipped back to the car, her father grabbed the candy and quickly popped some in his mouth. The shopkeeper heard their laughter and sighed happily.
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One day, on the plains of Africa, a young buffalo named Walter approached his dad and asked him if there was anything that he should be afraid of.
“Only lions my son,” his dad responded.
“Oh yes, I’ve heard about lions. If I ever see one, I’ll turn and run as fast as I can,” said Walter.
“No, that’s the worst thing you can do,” said the large male.
“Why? They are scary and will try to kill me.”
The dad smiled and explained, “Walter, if you run away, the lions will chase you and catch you. And when they do, they will jump on your unprotected back and bring you down.”
“So what should I do?” asked Walter.
“If you ever see a lion, stand your ground to show him that you’re not afraid. If he doesn’t move away, show him your sharp horns and stomp the ground with your hooves. If that doesn’t work, move slowly towards him. If that doesn’t work, charge him and hit him with everything you’ve got!”
“That’s crazy, I’ll be too scared to do that. What if he attacks me back?” said the startled young buffalo.
“Look around, Walter. What do you see?”
Walter looked around at the rest of his herd. There were about 200 massive beasts all armed with sharp horns and huge shoulders.
“If ever you’re afraid, know that we are here. If you panic and run from your fears, we can’t save you, but if you charge towards them, we’ll be right behind you.”
The young buffalo breathed deeply and nodded.
“Thanks dad, I think I understand.”
We all have lions in our worlds.
There are aspects of life that scare us and make us want to run, but if we do, they will chase us down and take over our lives. Our thoughts will become dominated by the things that we are afraid of and our actions will become timid and cautious, not allowing us to reach our full potential. – Darren Poke, Betterlifecoaching blog
Sometimes in relationships, one partner wants a little time for himself or herself. Time to introspect, process their emotions, or focus on studies or work. Most often enough the other partner panics a little, fearing the loss of the relationship and starts to frantically message the person, and if ignored they turn to readers, to find out why he or she is not responding to their texts, or if they are leaving them for good.
With the Tarot in cases like the these, the message is always the same. Leave them be. If someone truly loves you they won’t forget you and your importance in their life. Just like fields are left fallow for a while to nourish and strengthen the soil, souls too need a little ‘time out” to recharge their batteries and gain perspective. Understand and respect their need for space. Trust that things will work out. By messaging them repeatedly we only end up creating tension in the space and sometimes it drives the person further away.
Just let go, give them the space. Make them miss you.
They’ll come back when the time is right.
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Don’t search for the perfect one.
Don’t ask when, or who, or where.
Don’t look for love.
Let Love find you.
Let it’s mysterious energy knock you off your feet.
And that IS going to happen the day you stop looking and enjoy your present state.
Understand that the reason you are alone right now is because you’re meant to focus on other things, learn other lessons of Life and to tap into your inner self. And find the love within you. Anyone else would merely be a distraction. Yes it feels like forever till they come, but it’s not. Forever is letting Love grow inside you and someday, suddenly, appear in front of you.
A successful business man was growing old and knew it was time to choose a successor to take over the business.
Instead of choosing one of his Directors or his children, he decided to do something different. He called all the young executives in his company together.
He said, “It is time for me to step down and choose the next CEO. I have decided to choose one of you..”
The young executives were Shocked, but the boss continued. “I am going to give each one of you a SEED today – one very special SEED… I want you to plant the seed, water it, and come back here one year from today with what you have grown from the seed I have given you. I will then judge the plants that you bring, and the one I choose will be the next CEO.”
One man, named Jim, was there that day and he, like the others, received a seed. He went home and excitedly, told his wife the story. She helped him get a pot, soil and compost and he planted the seed. Everyday, he would water it and watch to see if it had grown. After about three weeks, some of the other executives began to talk about their seeds and the plants that were beginning to grow.
Jim kept checking his seed, but nothing ever grew.
Three weeks, four weeks, five weeks went by, still nothing.
By now, others were talking about their plants, but Jim didn’t have a plant and he felt like a failure.
Six months went by — still nothing in Jim’s pot. He just knew he had killed his seed. Everyone else had trees and tall plants, but he had nothing. Jim didn’t say anything to his colleagues, however.
He just kept watering and fertilizing the soil – He so wanted the seed to grow.
A year finally went by and all the young executives of the company brought their plants to the CEO for inspection.
Jim told his wife that he wasn’t going to take an empty pot. But she asked him to be honest about what happened. Jim felt sick to his stomach, it was going to be the most embarrassing moment of his life, but he knew his wife was right. He took his empty pot to the board room. When Jim arrived, he was amazed at the variety of plants grown by the other executives. They were beautiful — in all shapes and sizes. Jim put his empty pot on the floor and many of his colleagues laughed, a few felt sorry for him!
When the CEO arrived, he surveyed the room and greeted his young executives.
Jim just tried to hide in the back. “My, what great plants, trees, and flowers you have grown,” said the CEO. “Today one of you will be appointed the next CEO!”
All of a sudden, the CEO spotted Jim at the back of the room with his empty pot. He ordered the Financial Director to bring him to the front. Jim was terrified. He thought, “The CEO knows I’m a failure! Maybe he will have me fired!”
When Jim got to the front, the CEO asked him what had happened to his seed – Jim told him the story.
The CEO asked everyone to sit down except Jim. He looked at Jim, and then announced to the young executives, “Behold your next Chief Executive Officer!
His name is Jim!” Jim couldn’t believe it. Jim couldn’t even grow his seed.
“How could he be the new CEO?” the others said.
Then the CEO said, “One year ago today, I gave everyone in this room a seed. I told you to take the seed, plant it, water it, and bring it back to me today. But I gave you all boiled seeds; they were dead – it was not possible for them to grow.
All of you, except Jim, have brought me trees and plants and flowers. When you found that the seed would not grow, you substituted another seed for the one I gave you. Jim was the only one with the courage and honesty to bring me a pot with my seed in it. Therefore, he is the one who will be the new Chief Executive Officer!”
* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust
* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends
* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness
* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment
* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective
* If you plant hard work, you will reap success
* If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation
* If you plant faith in God, you will reap a harvest
So, be careful what you plant now; it will determine what you will reap later.
Image from http://www.littlegardeners.co.uk
Every one of us on this planet is blessed in some way. Though at times we may not know it, or even believe it, we are. The greatest blessing is the gift of life. Following that comes other blessings in our life from the basic (food, shelter, our loved ones) to more unique ones, like a gift or skill we may possess.
We all know that counting our blessings is perhaps the fastest way to usher in positive energy when we need it. But how many of us bless others for being in our lives, for caring for us, and being there when we need them. Blessing others is not something to be practised by our elders but by all of us on a regular basis. When we consciously appreciate another person we bless them, and we wish for good things to come their way. And promote the cycle of positivity and abundance. When we go a step further and bless those who have hurt us, or wronged us we break the chain of negative energy that flows from us or towards us. And replace it with a positive stream of energy.
After all, what we give out comes back to us.