Category Archives: Love

Why the men don’t stay

03 Sunday Mar 2019

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A string of bad relationships and you’re suddenly confused.

“Why cant I find a stable man?” is a question most Tarot readers are asked. And the answer is almost always the same.

Because you’re trying in the wrong direction. Stability doesn’t come from another source. It comes from within us. And when we realise that we have no choice but to be responsible and accountable for our own selves, whether it’s pleasant or not we reach that space of stability and security.

A better question to ask the Tarot is;

“What do I need to learn if I want to attract a long term relationship into my life?”

Learn from your mistakes. Did you feel uncomfortable when he was out of sight? Did you always send many many more messages than you received? Did he get irritated when you asked him too many questions, especially about his friends. Did you stop meeting your friends because he became your priority. Did your plans revolve around his availability.  Did he begin to avoid you when you acted needy? These were just a few of the signs.

Start going inwards. Become your own best friend. Find a space of peace that belongs to you and only you. Don’t expect it to happen in a day. But dont give up on trying either. Sooner or later you will begin to radiate a sense of self assuredness and stability that will not only draw the right men to you, it will show you that before we love another we have to love ourselves.

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Love yourself. Love others.

14 Thursday Feb 2019

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Do you also go through a phase where you’re only drawn to a particular colour? I do. And for the past 2-3 years one of my favourite colours is Fuschia or Magenta, a deep, vibrant pink that simply uplifts me. In colour therapy as well, this colour is known as the colour of universal love. Not as romantic and passionate as red, but softer, and in colour healing , magenta is used to bring out feelings of self love and compassion. Personal love is the gateway for universal love. The more I accept and love myself as I am with my flaws and contradictions, the more I learn to love others, as they are.

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What has Love got to teach your sunsign?

11 Monday Feb 2019

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Tarot Love Learnings for all Sun signs by Mita Bhan


Loves transforms, love uplifts, love teaches. And the Tarot taps into the energies that surround you right now. Here’s what your sunsign’s love lesson could be :

Aries

Love cannot be planned nor it can be predicted. The energy will suddenly descend on you and you may be seeing stars once again. Expect the unexpected in Love matters always. You may find yourself falling for someone who’s totally not your type. Or making the most electrifying eye contact with a stranger. Or deepening your feelings for someone who’s already in your life. Is it one level higher or one level deeper?

Taurus

It’s the tiniest things which can make two people disagree. Holding on to small slights and getting too lost in the expectations could lead to misunderstandings with a loved one.  There are no rules in love and if you want this love to last learn to forgive and let go. A friendship could turn serious in a moment without any notice.

Gemini
Don’t rush impulsively and then later regret it. Step back a second, don’t run away with your fantasies. Whether you are single and looking or in a relationship, patience will bring you what your heart wants. Answers  about a special someone will be revealed to you by their actions and not their words.

Cancer
You are no longer willing to settle in your relationships. It’s got to be meaningful or the friend zone . Love for you is something higher and purer and almost divine. You may find yourself more creative than usual, maybe reading or writing love poetry or cooking special meals for a loved one. When you learn to recognise all the love that surrounds you from friends, family and pets you discover how much you are loved for being so awesome.

Leo
Love doesnt play safe, love always asks you to take risks. If past experiences have left you bitter and a little wary about who to trust, the cards assure you it’s time to let go.A new relationship is on the horizon but first you must be ready for it. Release past baggage, forgive and let go. If already in a relationship get ready for a new chapter in your lives, greater understanding. Your heart will tell you everything you need to know.

Virgo
Is there a pattern in the kind of people you are attracted to? Are you waiting for someone to accept and appreciate you? Or is there something similar in they way you’ve broken up in the past. Love teaches you a valuable lesson and until you learn the pattern may recur. Pay attention to the early signals and don’t believe things will magically change with time. 

Libra

Just because you are single now doesn’t mean it’s a state that’s forever. Step out of your comfort zone and start meeting new people. Don’t hide from love. Love is accepting and embracing our selves and from that state we attract others our way.Committed partners learn to overlook the small differences and focus on shared goals. Strive to include your partner in yourdiscussions, together you can achieve a lot.

Scorpio


Possessiveness can be flattering in love but when it gets too much it can suffocate. Learn to trust yourselfand your better half. If the love is real and strong, he or she won’t leave. Love teaches you to believe in a higher power because its energies are purely divine.  Experiencing unconditional love can be the safest purest space to be.SaggitariusWhether married or single, your love life begins to improve. You are ready to learn the lessons of love and there may be a special excitement in the air. The more you realise how connected we all are, the better you relate with others. Remember not to get so enthusiastic in the beginning, you run out of steam. Take things a little slower and watch the magic grow.

Capricorn

Be completely honest and open. Teamwork is required if you wish to build a lasting relationship. If you’ve been in and out of casual relationships, it may be time to make a choice. Love teaches you to be true to yourself andfind the courage to share your innermost secrets and desires. The more you share, the closer your bond could be.


Aquarius


Let go of regrets. What has gone was never meant to be. Love teaches but also guides us to learn and move on. You’ve arrived at a period of transition. Your loves have changed you and  you are no longer the person you were. Use love to determine who you’d love to be.

Pisces
Love is not always written in black and white. Love is like a heartbeat that feels amazing. Everything you need to know about a relationship has been communicated to you and it’s timeto start believing your inner voice about a special someone. Pay attention to these feelings.  If involved with someone you will already get the feeling that it’s about to undergo a change.

Mita Bhan

This article was first published on http://www.astroyogi.com

Where would we be without the kindness of strangers?

03 Wednesday Oct 2018

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The Kindness of Strangers

 

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It is only  a sense of deep gratitude  I feel for all the strangers who have helped me without me even asking them.

The security guard who carried my crying 6 month old while I fumbled in my bag for my boarding pass in an international airport.

The lady who held my hand tightly while I stumbled on the mossy pebbles in a temple pond.

The man who gave me his handkerchief when I received a call about the death of a loved one in a queue.

The old couple who emailed me pictures of my son performing in a street play when my camera battery died.

The cashier who lent me her phone to make an emergency call when I forgot my phone.

Or even the lady who let me stand in front of her in the check out queue because I had just one item while her shopping cart was full.

And countless other angels down the years who were there when I needed a helping hand. They came forward wordlessly, in seconds and I still thank each and every one of them.

Without even realising it, these people show us the world isn’t such a cold and cruel place.  By being themselves, they inspire us every day to extend our hand if we see a stranger stumble or fall. To pay their kindness forward and add a little kindness to our worlds.

 

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The Goddess and the Girl

05 Wednesday Sep 2018

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Sometimes mom sent her on errands.

Sometimes that man was there.

Sitting outside the shop with his legs on top of the plastic stool

cat calling, whistling out to any passing woman, beckoning her to sit on

his lap.

With her heart racing she’d avoid his lewd eyes and leave the shop as quickly as she could, that creepy, trickly feeling inside her would tell her to run.

Run run run to a place of safety.

Run run run to the Goddess of Mercy.

Who’d be standing and smiling from the other side of the road back home.

Making sure she reached okay.

Every single time.

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“She is called Kuan Yin because at any cry of misery she ‘hears the voice and removes the sorrow.’ Her appellation is ‘Taking-away-fear Buddha,’ If in the midst of the fire the name of Kuan Yin is called, the fire cannot burn; if tossed by mountain billows, call her name, and shallow waters will be reached. If merchants go across the sea seeking gold, silver, pearls, and precious stones, and a storm comes up and threatens to carry the crew to the evil devil’s kingdom, if one on board calls on the name of Kuan Yin, the ship will be saved. If one goes into a conflict and calls on the name of Kuan Yin, the sword and spear of the enemy fall harmless. If the three thousand great kingdoms are visited by demons, call on her name, and these demons cannot with an evil eye look on a man. If, within, you have evil thoughts, p. 253 only call on Kuan Yin, and your heart will be purified, Anger and wrath may be dispelled by calling on the name of Kuan Yin. A lunatic who prays to Kuan Yin will become sane. Kuan Yin gives sons to mothers, and if the mother asks for a daughter she will be beautiful. Two men—one chanting the names of the 6,200,000 Buddhas, in number like the sands of the Ganges, and the other simply calling on Kuan Yin—have equal merit. ” Myths and Legends of China, by Edward T.C. Werner, [1922]

Even one sided love is true

29 Wednesday Aug 2018

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He calls me for a reading frequently and it’s always about her.

How she’s doing. Is she happy. Is her husband treating her right.

And each and every time the cards point to a deep, long lasting love

but only from his side.

His pain is indescribably real.

And so is his deep concern for her to be happy.

In all the readings I’ve done for him, he’s never asked about himself.

 

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Bless his heart dear God.

 

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Memories of De Schaduwkade – Lest We Forget.

29 Sunday Jul 2018

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For so many years my shadow floated by on the tiny waves

Waiting

For you to return

Remembering your words promising to not forget me

Or all of us here

Who lived and breathed

and walked this road

and laughed

and cried

Until we heard only Silence

Each night our souls whirled around on the tips of the dark green water peering over the shoulders  of the waves

Waiting for their special someone to return,

And for me, it was you.

You.

You came.

All thirteen years of you standing there with your parents.

When I heard your voice read out my name aloud

I cried into the water

And soon we were all floating on the tearful waves

listening to your sweet shrill Indian accent

Reading  aloud each and every one of our names

You didn’t forget

You returned

And while the other shadows have drifted to sleep I shall float along

these deep green waves waiting

For you to return with your wife and children.

—-Lest We Forget——-

 

While exploring the Jewish quarter of Amsterdam on a family vacation  my son  felt compelled to walk down the quiet road by the canal in Nieuwe Keizersgracht. He ran up to the plaques on the banks of the canal and called  out to us to see and hear him say out the names out loud individually while he folded his hands in prayer.  We discovered we were at  the Schaduwwade memorial listing names on the plaques opposite their homes of more than 200  Jewish residents of Nieuwe Keizersgracht who were killed during WW2 . And thank God for sending us a reminder to never forget.

 

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Don’t play with his heart

30 Friday Mar 2018

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Dear Girl,

He loves and you know it.

But you don’t feel the same.

It feels nice to be with him

drinks, dinner and dessert

But you dont feel the same.

Better you tell him sooner

Before you break his heart

Better you be honest

‘Cause someday he will find out

Better to have him thank you for saying the truth

Than feeling he’s been used.

‘Cause that’s not a nice feeling

and Karma will come around

Make you feel that way someday and remember what you lost.

 

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Giving space

16 Friday Mar 2018

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Sometimes in relationships, one partner wants a little time for himself or herself. Time to introspect, process their emotions, or focus on studies or work. Most often enough the other partner panics a little, fearing the loss of the relationship and starts to frantically message the person, and if ignored they turn to readers, to find out why he or she is not responding to their texts, or if they are leaving them for good.

With the Tarot in cases like the these, the message is always the same. Leave them be. If someone truly loves you they won’t forget you and your importance in their life. Just like fields are left fallow for a while to nourish and strengthen the soil, souls too need a little ‘time out” to recharge their batteries and gain perspective. Understand and respect their need for space. Trust that things will work out. By messaging them repeatedly we only end up creating tension in the space and sometimes it drives the person further away.

Just let go, give them the space. Make them miss you.

They’ll come back when the time is right.

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Don’t Look for Love.

25 Sunday Feb 2018

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Don’t search for the perfect one.

Don’t ask when, or who, or where.

Don’t look for love.

Let Love find you.

Let it’s mysterious energy knock you off your feet.

And that IS going to happen the day you stop looking and enjoy your present state.

Understand that the reason you are alone right now is because you’re meant to focus on other things, learn other lessons of Life and to tap into your inner self. And find the love within you.  Anyone else would merely be a distraction. Yes it feels like forever till they come, but it’s not. Forever is letting Love grow inside you and someday, suddenly, appear in front of you.

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Mita Bhan