Don’t search for the perfect one.
Don’t ask when, or who, or where.
Don’t look for love.
Let Love find you.
Let it’s mysterious energy knock you off your feet.
And that IS going to happen the day you stop looking and enjoy your present state.
Understand that the reason you are alone right now is because you’re meant to focus on other things, learn other lessons of Life and to tap into your inner self. And find the love within you. Anyone else would merely be a distraction. Yes it feels like forever till they come, but it’s not. Forever is letting Love grow inside you and someday, suddenly, appear in front of you.
Meet my Himalayan Singing Bowl. Gifted to me by a visiting Regressionist from New Zealand over 10 years ago, this ancient healing tool is one of my prized tools for balancing and healing, cleansing and purifying not just me and my family and clients, but also my home and office. I love playing it walking from room to room or simply meditating with it. It is not uncommon to find people owning 3-4 of these, playing each one alternatively. Me, I’m happy with just one.
According to the Tibetans, these bowls have been around since Buddha’s times and are the quintessential aid for meditation, healing and cleansing practices. They produce a sound that immediately balances our brains, our chakras and deeply relaxes those who hear it. Meditating on the sound helps tune one into the universal sounds of Universe. Easily available at alternative healing stores and Tibetan antique/handicraft shops, Himalayan Tibetan bowls should always be tested before purchase.
For an idea of what it sounds like, do listen to this video here. And if you’d like a live demonstration after a Tarot/Healing session, I’d be more than happy to play it for you :):)
Every one of us on this planet is blessed in some way. Though at times we may not know it, or even believe it, we are. The greatest blessing is the gift of life. Following that comes other blessings in our life from the basic (food, shelter, our loved ones) to more unique ones, like a gift or skill we may possess.
We all know that counting our blessings is perhaps the fastest way to usher in positive energy when we need it. But how many of us bless others for being in our lives, for caring for us, and being there when we need them. Blessing others is not something to be practised by our elders but by all of us on a regular basis. When we consciously appreciate another person we bless them, and we wish for good things to come their way. And promote the cycle of positivity and abundance. When we go a step further and bless those who have hurt us, or wronged us we break the chain of negative energy that flows from us or towards us. And replace it with a positive stream of energy.
After all, what we give out comes back to us.
While studying about self healing a few years ago I had come across the concept of talking to your cells. Achievable in a meditative state, it involved focussing on the area, organ, or muscle that was hurting or diseased and literally, sending positive affirmations to that spot. Combined with energy healing techniques and approached holistically it seemed to have helped countless people around the world. Especially when viewed from the perspective of mind, body soul connections, it gave me an indepth look at why a certain illness may have manifested. The physical manifestation was the last in the process, tracing its roots to our spirit and our mind. For example, a person who represses feelings or doesnt speak out, may, over time have issues related to thyroid and a perpetual sore and painful throat.
Every part of our bodies is governed by our soul and our thoughts. And too many times when we say “Oh I have bad knees” “My digestion is not good” “I am a terrible sleeper” ‘My back is weak” we are simply prolonging and in a way worsening our ailments. But if we begin to look at our bodies as our temple, our space for healing, purification and our friends till the end and begin to send positive messages to it, our body does heal.
A couple of months ago my knees began to hurt during my daily walks. It had reached a point where I began to get so anxious about the pain, it began while I wore my shoes. A trip to the orthopaedic, follow up xrays and blood tests revealed nothing wrong. So what was I blocking? Research revealed, painful knees were atitudes I was holding onto, issues of stubborness and control, plus of course the fact that I would think “my bad knees wont let me walk for more than 2-3km” I was making things worse for myself. And so I began to talk to my knees during meditation using positive affirmations like “My knees are getting stronger each day” and “I am flexible to adapting to Life’s changes” “I let go of beliefs and atitudes that no longer serve me” and “I am willing to walk through my fears” and gradually over a couple of weeks I began to see a positive difference.
Affirmations, self talk, communicating directly to the cells may seem zany at first, but it does work. The next time you wake up with a twinge in your back, or an itch in your throat, take a few minutes to meditate and go inwards. See if you can visualise the spot which hurts and just say to yourself “I am healing” Find out what attitudes you may be holding on to, or emotions you may be suppressing. Address them. Talk about them. Let them go with love. After all, its time we all loved our self more, cells and all.
If you are keen to explore this, contact me for a Guided Healing Meditation. And we can begin by talking your way to wellness.
For a long time, I found it hard to truly forgive the people who had hurt me over the years. I felt that if I did forgive them, it would seem like what they did was ‘alright’, But how could their bitchiness, mockery and behaviour be ever alright? When I did think of them or bump into them, I would feel a burn in my heart. At the spot where the pain had somehow collected down the years. I’d heal the spot and carry on, but the repressed pain continued.
I’d heard of the concept of forgiveness and I honestly believed I’d let go of a lot of painful memories but last week I learnt that I hadnt. For a couple of nights I kept having nightmares of these people, as if they were ghosts from the past, appearing in my dreams, hurting me exactly the way they used to. And I made a conscious decision to do some intensive energy healing work on forgiveness.
At first it was hard, replaying the memories, remembering their faces, and feeling their icky energies all over again. But I learnt I had to, for one final time, replay it all and then let them go. Perhaps I had done something to do them consciously or unconsciously, perhaps it was unfinished karma, perhaps they were clueless that their behaviour was hurtful. Whatever it was, it had to be released.
Forgiveness was not a one sided act. It also included me. And the more I meditated, the more I saw myself in my younger years and realised how my own behaviour and words may have led to their reactions. Not only did I had to forgive them, I had to forgive myself.
The learning was almost instantaneous. During the meditations I understood, we cannot undo the past but we can make our present and our futures better. What some of them said or did was not acceptable but I had to let it go for my own healing. Forgiveness doesnt mean things would be hunky dory with them, or they would be welcomed into my heart or home, it just meant releasing an imprisoning memory. And it wouldnt have happened if I wasnt ready for it. For forgiveness to take place, we have to be ready for it, to release the memories and feel the freedom of releasing the negative energy that binds us to those people.
Mother Nature speaks to us in so many ways. But we’re so lost in our thoughts we never pay attention to her. Rather like the way we behave with our own moms. Knowing that their words are for our highest good, but not really paying attention to them.
After a recent workshop I attended on communicating with Nature, I’ve learnt to keep all my senses open when I meditate outdoors. Sitting on the grass, surrounded by trees and bushes, it’s like an invitation to an exclusive event where I have the privilege to mingle with the wisest and the most ancient beings who are unbelievably generous with their support and wisdom.
Everytime I tune into Nature during meditation I emerge with a sense of clarity, a greater purpose and a quiet determination that reminds me I cannot die without doing something for our environment and our animals.
Isnt Love the most complex and compelling subject in the world?
The more I connect with the energies of Love during meditation, the more questions the Tarot answers about Love, the more I realise just how little I know about this subject. Over the past few weeks the majority of the Tarot and Psychic readings have to do about the various shades of Love in our loves. Some of you came asking about a long lost love, some wanted to know about whether they had found their soulmate, some hoped to find answers to a loveless marriage, and some just wanted to know if Love was coming into their lives. And I asked what is this thing called Love?.
Excerpts from My Meditation Journal
- Love comes when it wants to. Nothing and nobody on this planet can make anyone fall in love with us. And the only way we can be ready to receive love is when there’s adequate amounts of love within us. Love of self is the first step to attracting loving energies in our life. And it doesnt apply to single people alone. And it has nothing to do with being selfish or changing our wardrobe. Loving oneself begins with honouring who we are from inside, accepting our light and our shadow and becoming willing to operate from a source of strength and not fear.
- Love is not about changing the other person. Impossible. Speaking from personal experience, the minute I believe someone can be ‘rescued’ I am entering into heartbreak highway with no exit signs on the side. Love is about acceptance. You are perfect as you are. Just say it to a loved one and see how liberating it feels.
- Love is addictive, it is a high and all we do is hold on to the memory, the look, the connection. Our whole lives are spent searching for that happy high. But Love is not a drug for the low times. Love is oxygen, all around us from the time before we were born and it will endure for a long time after we die. The first step in learning about Love is becoming aware of the amount of Love already in our lives. By focussing on why she left or what he feels restricts our joy in Love. Love exists in so many shades, and in so many places. Discover what you love doing for instance is a way of tapping into the forces of Love. I’ve seen faces light up when I ask them “What do you love doing?” and someone says “golf” or “singing” or “I used to really love dancing” Or in my case “writing”
And finally as I try desperately to write more on the subject I remember the song “You Cant Hurry Love” by Phil Collins from the 80’s and laugh, because there is no crash course in Love and it’s taken me 40 years to reach to this point.
Souls dont care what you look like, what you wear, where you live, how much or how little you have in the bank.
When there’s a connection, there’s a connection at a deep level.
A chord is touched. A glimmer of light passes from one pair of eyes to another and a moment of recognition occurs. A vaguely familiar feeling. Deja vu of sorts. A knowing that you’ve met before. And there is a reason for meeting again.