The cards seemed to nod and assured her he still loved her.
“When will he return?”
The card of Patience loomed large. It could take several weeks or months for him to realise just how much she meant to him. And he would need some time and space to actually understand his own heart. Let him be. Let him explore his own heart and soul and realise that you are the one.
“Whatttt???? Why can’t he hurry up?????”
The cards chose to be silent, and in the background crooned Phil Collins.
“You can’t hurry love No, you’ll just have to wait She said “love don’t come easy But it’s a game of give and take” You can’t hurry love, no you’ll just have to wait“
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Aries (Mar 21 – Apr 19)
It’s all about compromise this month- giving in is essential to any relationship, and though at times it may appear to be a difficult pill to swallow, it helps a relationship to grow. You may find that you need to open your mind to changes around you. Confront your own difficulties Steer clear of malicious gossip and power plays both at work and in your personal life. Watch your temper, before you attack others, consider the consequences of your actions. Someone may treat you unfairly but it would be pointless to speak up at this point. Lie low, listen to the others perspective and understand that this is only temporary.
Taurus(Apr 20- May 20)
Take a break the cards guide you. If you’ve been working too hard and have been neglecting your or your family’s needs, take a step back and take it easy for a short while. Worry is simply a waste of energy and it’s best to go with the flow and live in the present moment. Expect delays, procrastinations and non committal people in the work place. Put your daily concerns to one side and concentrate on calming your mind and restoring your energy levels. If you’re facing problems with a loved one, perhaps it would be wise to leave the subject of dispute for a while or take a break and focus on other things. Financially things get better (but only after you let go!)
Gemini(May 21 – June 20)
If Life has been chaotic of late, just remember the worst is over. Somewhere in the turbulence of the past few weeks, you’ve learnt to understand that nothing and no one can be taken for granted. Things gradually get better this month as you find your attitude changing towards people and circumstances that are truly beyond your control. Prepare yourself for minor upheavals in the work front but also be confident knowing that you can handle it. Financially a month of gains with the promise of more.
Cancer(June 21 – July 22)
Time to take stock. Pause and look back at your achievements and your goals. Re-evaluate your life and let go of relationships and situations that no longer help your growth. Rethink your plans and prioritise your life accordingly. A good time to ask yourself how much satisfaction are you getting out of your education, career and relationships and make the necessary changes required to improve things. Singles may find a friend disclosing feelings for you, and married couples may renew bonds of commitment and love. A time for positive, constructive change, realize that if you want happiness it may be time to modify and readapt, give up or walk away.
Leo(July 23- Aug 22)
A time of increased activity is in store for you this month, starting new projects, a new career, beginning new relationships. In your rush to do new things, don’t be hasty. Be sure to check things out carefully before proceeding, impulsiveness could cost you a lot more than you think. Travel is on the cards along with sudden plans, decisions and even sudden cancellations of plans. Expect the unexpected, expect speed and don’t forget to pause before you rush into things. Singles may discover a relationship suddenly taking a turn for the better or worse, and married couples may find a sudden disclosure changes the balance of things.
Virgo(Aug 23- Sept 22)
You may find that you’ve been doing too much for others, taking on more responsibilities than necessary and are simply wearing out. Set clear boundaries around yourself about what you can do and what you cannot do for loved ones and people at work. Are you giving more of yourself than is humanly possible? The cards guide you to take time out for yourself and set your priorities. Learn to say No to people who waste your time and energy and take out some quiet time for yourself. Single people may find themselves so bogged down at work that there’s no time for play. If married, you or your mate may be overworked and simply too tired. Relax, learn to meditate and remember it’s okay to say No.
Libra(Sept 23- Oct 22)
One moment you’re on top of the world in love with one and all, and in other moments you may wish to hide and not interact at all. Take a good hard look around you and do view things objectively. Not everything is as it seems, and before you rush off to plan or fantasize, assess your current options. Go beyond face value and promises and let actions speak for themselves. Don’t allow yourself to get lulled into a false sense of security. Expect results towards the end of February.
Scorpio(Oct 23- Nov21)
Nostalgia reigns supreme. Don’t be surprised if you find yourself reminiscing about an old flame or suddenly bumping into a familiar face again. Workwise, an old colleague or an acquaintance may propose an enticing idea. Or you may get a call from your old office. And personally, expect either a family reunion or a letter or phone call from a family member you haven’t met in years. Single Scorpios may have a last fling with an exflame and those married may be wishing for their old single days again or missing an old love. Watch your tendency to go overboard with expenses.
Saggitarius(Nov 22- Dec 21)
Too much of a good thing is not a good thing ! The card of balance appears reminding you not to go overboard with excess – be it in terms of work, food, drink, anything. Establish boundaries with those who take you for granted, and decide for yourself just how much is worth giving and how much is worth keeping. Remember, balance is your key. A recurring health ailment may flare up again so watch your lifestyle. At the workplace you may find yourself swinging between days of little or no work and days when you’ll be putting in 18 hours non stop. Strive for balance this month before it takes its toll on you.
Capricon (Dec 22-Jan19)
Things are changing, just when you thought they wouldn’t. Now’s the time to put all your ideas into action, and do all the things you’d dreamed about. Action, energy, dynamism and verve are keywords for you this month. Don’t be surprised if you find your magnetic energy and intensity attracting a few admirers either. Who can resist someone who’s definitely on their way upward and onward? Expect to receive a lot of messages, be prepared to pack your bags in a moments notice and have your Plan B ready. A hectic, haywire, exciting month for singles who may suddenly find themselves admiring a number of people or being the object of affection of many. You are loved for being the special soul that you are:)
Aquarius (Jan 20- Feb 18)
Trust becomes the issue of the month for Aquarians. Be it trusting your gut, or learning to trust again in your relationships. With this card expect a number of incidents cropping up in your life based around the issue of trust. And remember while you’re trying to figure out who can you trust and how much, the Universe trusts that you will make the right choice and do the right thing. Believe in yourself, listen to your inner voice. If you feel someone doesn’t quite appear what they seem, or is promising a little too much, listen to your gut. Singles and couples may find differences of opinion with their loved ones getting too much to bear and the cards guide you to take a break and look at things objectively for a bit. Be careful in financial dealings, don’t let anyone sweet talk you with promises.
Pisces(Feb 19- Mar20)
The worst is over and things become a little better.. Hope and healing is in your hands. The more you cling to the negative memories, the more power you give them over you. Positive changes begin when you believe they will happen. A very productive month for start ups and students, your hard work will pay off in the long run. Burn off excess nervous energy with exercise. A love affair is about to begin if you allow it. It doesn’t guarantee forever but it may just be the adventure your soul needs.
Once in a deep blue moon I get the honour of reading the Ace of Cups as a response to the query if someone really loves them.
Ace of cups, the first card in the suit of emotion, Cat Eye Deck
And this rare and powerful card says yes their love for you is real. The kind of love where they can feel their own heartbeat, but yours as well. Where they lie awake thinking if you are asleep or awake at 3am.
Yes your someone really loves you:)
And thank you for allowing me to be part of the beautiful energy shift this card ushered in.
That sluggish, I do not want to get out of my blanket feeling.
The heaviness of plodding around doing morning chores with the absolute reluctance of a teenager.
This morning I woke up with the sound of the doorbell and a grey fog around my head. Call it brain fog, deprived sleep or just the Wintry blues. Everything seemed to be in slow motion until I forced myself to exercise. Just a simple 25 minute full body mobility and workout routine and the endorphins kicked in, the sun came out and my cat chasing a grape on the floor brought back a little smile.
But why did I feel like I was going to turn 100 on my next birthday?
According to the Mayo Clinic, “Winter is a dark time, so our bodies produce more melatonin in response. This leads to excessive feelings of fatigue and tiredness. The change in season can disrupt the balance of the body’s level of melatonin, which plays a role in sleep patterns and mood”
Aaah, and while simple exercise helped me, there were other ways to boost energy levels during the cold days of this season. Definetely worth practicing and sharing.
Natural Light in the morning is the best way to lift winter blues. Image from clickinmoms.com. Doctors recommend opening up your blinds and curtains upon rising to allow the maximum amount of natural light into your living space. Spending a brief time outdoors in the winter sun helps boost the sunshine Vitamin D in our bodies, acting like a natural energiser and mood uplifter. Natural light eases depression and anxiety associated with the foggy wintry days.
Pastel shades do a lot more for us than we think. Image from 123rf.com Consciously Wear Pastels. Colour therapy believes lighter colours uplift us, raise our vibration and promotes feelings of wellbeing, where as wearing colours like brown, grey and black pull us down.
Citrus notes promote clarity, concentration and energy. Image from indiamart.com. Certain essential oils when burnt in the morning or inhaled on a tissue help stimulate and energise the brain cells. Citrus aromas like Bergamot, Lime, Mandarin Orange are a few to choose apart from the trusted Basil which helps reduce fatigue and improves concentration.
Do note this tips are for the occasional case of winter blues which usually dissipate after a few hours of waking up. If you feel the tired, grey feeling lasts throughout the day or week and is affecting your personal and professional life, it would be best to meet with a doctor.
We all have something we like to collect, keep or hoard in vast quantities. Stuff we don’t even realise we have too much of until someone points it out to us.
I recently discovered my mom who I thought was the queen of declutter was quietly hoarding a secret collection of hand towels. We were decluttering her store room and discovered enough hand towels to open a shop. Not only was she not using them, they were only taking space in her store.
While persuading her to part with bundles of pastel, fluffly hand towels she kept saying “They will come in handy” and I asked her “How many?’ and we both burst out laughing as we packed them in a few cartons for donation.
Do you hoard things which you never use keeping them aside for a rainy day? Have you ever thought how much lighter and freer you will feel without them?
When we were kids my Mother believed whatever significant happened on the 1st of January would recur the whole year through. Initially Dad would laugh at her words but one year we did fly on the 1st of January, and guess what, we travelled a lot that year. Another year unexpected house guests came on New Year’s Day and you can guess just what happened in the following 12 months. Her theory was proved right year after year with examples.
Soon Dad became a believer.
Each 1st of January, he would insist we write down our resolutions for the year ahead and if that wasn’t drudgery for a 9 year old, he also made it a point for us to study a bit on 1st of January, believing thats what we’d do the whole year long! While Mom ensured we did housework with her. On Dad’s part he worked and he cleared and organised the papers and bills. Something they both still do.
Today when I look back at our family traditions, I realise I have imbibed quite a few of them on every New Year. My teenager will agree as he shuffles to his books with that sullen bored look I must have had at his age, my husband will skip the carbs. And I sit down to write to wish all my readers a Happy Peaceful Productive 2020. Sharing with you what I have learnt.
What rituals and traditions do you practice on New Years Day? What would you like your future generations to learn from your Elders?
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Aries (Mar 21 – Apr 19)
Temper temper dear fiery one, this months sees you encountering a number of people who will test your patience and tolerance levels. Take a few deep breaths or count to 10 if you have to. You may be in a rush to complete tasks, just make you don’t make too many errors in your scramble to meet the deadline. It’s a busy month ahead so make sure to stay organised and look forward to a pleasant change of events. On the personal front, a part of your soul starts getting ready for a love affair that could sweep you off your feet later this year. Financially your hard work starts bringing rewards your way. One tip, work on staying calm.
Taurus (Apr 20- May 20)
Suddenly you get the feeling that you no longer need to engage with people who try to dominate you all the time. You may rebel, fight back or just walk away. Relief will come when you feel free to be who you are, and do what you were meant to do. A good month for getting long term plans into action and seeing results. Even on the health front you start noticing the positive effects of diet/exercise. Just be you.
Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
Security has nothing to do with numbers but a feeling inside. That all’s well and things can only get better. Influential people start to notice your work and an interesting offer may come your way. Job seekers can look forward to pleasant news in this quarter and students get closer to their dreams. Significant developments for start ups and self employed, the cards promise long term gains. At home, loved ones may get a little demanding and miss your company. Don’t forget to tell your loved ones how much you love them.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
Rise up from disappointments and start afresh. Leave the past disappointments behind. The worst is over and things can only get better when you make positive thinking a daily practice. A hidden blessing will be revealed. An old friendship may be rekindled. You may find yourself drawn to spiritual and artistic pursuits. And if you’re planning to think about settling down, starting a business or even pursuing a course of study, this month is favourable for long term success.
Leo (July 23- Aug 22)
The more organised your world, the more successful will be your outcome. Use the weeks ahead to plan, restructure and reorganise. Declutter if you have to, and focus on what’s truly essential. A great month for making progress, not just on the work front but also your love life. If someone special needs to be persuaded, you’ll do it, if a misunderstanding needs to be resolved, you’ll do it as well. Your health is good and if you were planning to join a sport or even the gym you won’t regret your decision!
Virgo (Aug 23- Sept 22)
The good old day days were wonderful but now it’s time to pull yourself into the present and see how you can make your future even brighter. Changes will be implemented in your attitude and your work and within a few weeks you should start feeling a positive difference. Old friends and loved ones remind you just how special you are. Look forward to warm reunions, and if single then the possible return of a love from the past.
Libra (Sept 23- Oct 22)
Things are not going to shift unless you do. Take a stand. Stop sitting on the fence and delaying important decisions. Your opinion matters and it would be wise to speak your mind at the right time. Opportunity doesn’t knock twice remember, so be ready to change something at the drop of a hat. Financially a month of gains and a feeling that you are getting closer to your dreams. You are you know, but first you will need to make a few necessary alterations!
Scorpio (Oct 23- Nov21)
With so many calls, mails and messages you may find yourself more on the phone than ever before. A busy month of communications, you may come across an interesting discovery that could help your work immensely. A friendship could turn serious, but if you’re not ready then say so. Travel plans may get finalised and something you’ve been wanting for a while will be yours. In your quest to rise to the top, just make sure you don’t ignore your health. A nagging ailment could require medical attention.
Saggitarius (Nov 22- Dec 21)
Roll up the sleeves and get set for a month of completing tasks, tying up the loose ends and double checking everything. Your keen eye will ensure everything that leaves your office will be perfect. Responsibilities come easy to you and people may seek out your shoulder for some wisdom and guidance. Love matters take a back seat for a bit, but you will soon be back to your charismatic self in a social event. A flirtation could get a little more intense than you anticipated.
Capricorn (Dec 22-Jan19)
New beginnings. And with the added bonanza of the energies of Love! A month that favours harmony, wellbeing and loving relationships, the cards urge you to express your feelings and do what you love doing. Even at the work place people will sense a renewed energy around you, something that was delayed for many months may get activated. Payments that were stuck or delayed show movement. And you may decide to indulge yourself a little with a few luxuries.
Aquarius (Jan 20- Feb 18)
Multi tasking seems to be the flavour of the month for Aquarians. You may find yourself involved in numerous projects at the same time, or dealing with multiple demands on your time. Money may come from more than one sources and if you’ve planned your finances right, this month could bring a number of pleasant surprises. A good month to socialise, you may meet some interesting people, and if single, a certain someone may just steal your heart away. One tip, if in doubt, pause.
Pisces (Feb 19- Mar20)
January sees you overcoming a bad habit by mindfulness and sheer willpower. A part of you is stronger, wiser and a lot more focussed about where you’re headed. Don’t pay attention to your critics, and take nothing at face value. Your ability to understand the depths of a problem will help you resolve matters and offer solutions in your own unique manner. Meeting up with friends and family will remind you just how deeply you are loved and just how much you matter to this planet.
Letting go is one of the hardest practices we will encounter, but once we do it, we wonder why we did’nt do it sooner. Many a times we find ourselves stuck about someone or something and people tell us to “let go”.
But how?
Here’s a few tried techniques that may work for you if you are struggling with something. Remember very very few of us have the ability to let go in a second. For the majority of us the process takes many tries. and time. Be patient, be persistent.
Write it down and burn it.
Struggling with a relationship that’s over. Disturbed by someone’s insensitive behaviour which you find difficult to forgive? Psychologists and Healers recommend writing a long letter to them, pouring out your feelings and allowing the process to be cathartic. Get in touch with your feelings, remember what happened and write out your soul. When you’re done, just burn the letter. Chances are you may feel lighter and purged of your pain.
2. Connect with the Inner You
Meditate and focus on your breathing. Start paying attention to your mind and your body. Start getting aligned with you, your space, your feelings and thoughts. Too many times when we find ourselves too attached to others the pain comes as a reminder to detach and focus entirely on your seperateness from them. Get in touch with YOU. Appreciate and accept your who you are. Understand you cannot change anyone but yourself. Allow any feelings to arise and be kind with yourself.
3. Look for Closure
Most relationships break up without closure. People disappear without giving answers. And those who are left holding on wait for a final goodbye or some sort of sign from them to close the chapter. When it doesn’t happen, we have no choice but to find closure within ourselves. Say “My relationship with X is over” out loud during meditation, write it out, or talk to a trusted soul. Acknowledge and accept that it’s over. When you reach a space that someone or something was not meant to be in your life for a reason (which you may or may never know) you allow yourself to disconnect and restart.
4. Forgive Yourself. Forgive Them
The process of forgiveness can take a long time and comes with its share of reliving the pain. The pain is but a passing energy, let it flow out, once and for all. Contemplate on all the mistakes you made, realise your humanness. Contemplate on their mistakes, realise their humanness. Consciously work at forgiving and allow the peace to come in.
5. Distract Yourself
I find this technique works the fastest and at a practical level, it’s do-able. The key is to be mindful. Whenever you find overthinking about someone or something, do an activity that breaks the pattern. Clean your drawer. Delete the Junk mail. Go outdoors. Use your hands. It works in seconds as an important part of the process of letting go.
Letting go takes time and when it doesn’t happen naturally, we need to push ourselves out of our comfort zones to speed up the process. Not easy but necessary for our own growth. We allow ourselves a second chance and as the wise ones have always told us “when one door closes, another opens.”
If you’re still finding it difficult to let go, reach out for a guided healing meditation on Letting Go to get you started on your process of restarting and reshaping your life. Email me at mita.bhan@gmail.com for details.
