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Walk away from Hostility

18 Wednesday Dec 2019

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“They had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again” – Melody Beattie

There will always be hostile people in our life who seem to find fault with everything and everyone. Perpetually angry and critical they will pick fights and drive people away from them with their confrontational and combative atitude. It’s taken me many years to understand that the battle they fight is within themselves. And I have the choice to engage in their energy or walk away. We cannot help them, we cannot heal them, but we can understand why they’ve become so hostile but if they’re not willing to see how their behaviour affects others, there is nothing anyone can do for them except pray they heal from their traumas and pray they see a little beauty and love in this world.

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No Guarantees

20 Tuesday Aug 2019

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The wise ones tell us this a thousand times but we still don’t remember until its too late. Things we take for granted get taken. Appreciate the people in your life. Show them, tell them and cherish them. Appreciate all the things in your life you just assume will always be around. Make it a daily practice to count your blessings and be thankful. Appreciation brings more blessings.

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Decluttering. Anytime, anywhere is good.

23 Sunday Jun 2019

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The act of decluttering our possessions is one of the most positive things you can do for you and your home. By letting go of the broken, the worn out, ill fitting or just boring we lighten our baggage indoors significantly. Don’t you feel good when you drop the cartons off at your local charity? Or discover the joy of recycling?

I used to declutter twice a year during the change of seasons and wardrobes but discovered it was still feeling stuffy at home and have now begun decluttering just one drawer, shelf, desk every few days. Less time consuming less overwhelming and a little bit of feel good afterwards.

Good Energy one carton at a time.

Decluttering is no longer limited to Spring, anytime of the year is a good time. What I love about it is that it teaches us to focus on what is essential and what truly matters. And after a good session of letting go, I like to burn essential oils for purification and positive energy.

How often do you declutter and how do you feel about it?

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https://www.onekingslane.com/live-love-home/marie-kondo-book-declutter/

Dealing with Delays

18 Tuesday Jun 2019

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Sometimes every thing is in place but one tiny spoke in the wheel delays plans.

Sometimes things are beyond your control. Just before you meet the MD of the company you are about to join, his secretary reschedules the appointment because he has to travel somewhere urgently.

And sometimes the endless roles of red tape just wears us down .

Whatever the delay, the circumstances around it or the cause for it, delays can be testing times for all of us.

Firstly it is frustrating knowing that you have no choice but to wait another day, or another week or a month to get what you want.

Next comes the irritated restlessness that accompanies it, a tiny knot of tension that could express itself as impatience or just a bad mood.

And finally comes the worry the “what if” the anxious feelings keep you up at night imagining worst case scenarios.

I’ve learnt the hard way over and over again that the only thing I can do when faced with delays is to

1.Drop the matter for now

2.Do something else in the meantime.

And if that feeling of impatience creeps up on me again, dust it off again and again and focus on something else. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.

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Decluttering Emotional Baggage

09 Sunday Jun 2019

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Just when I think I’ve let so much go, an old painful memory comes creeping in during my meditations to remind me there is still inner work to be done. And when I heal myself for one final time I realise I had been holding on to some unecessary baggage for way too long. God only knows why 🙂

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What We Cannot Ignore About Self Love

08 Saturday Jun 2019

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  • Self Love is not One Size Fits All. The journey differs for each individual yet the goal is common. If we all love ourselves, we learn to love each other.
  • It is not a one time practice. It’s a daily practice be it in the form of prayer, affirmation, meditation, exercise – self love and self care is a continuous discovery of ourselves through the good, the bad and the ugly within us.
  • Self Love can no longer be ignored. The wounded will always wound the other. Until we embrace and heal our own wounds we will always hurt inside and consciously/unconsciously hurt another. No need for detail here, just follow the News to see what is happening.
  • Self Love is acknowledging our own toxic traits and working on them.
  • It’s much much more than choosing the right make up and colour highlight it’s a continuous journey inwards and feeling right.
  • Though it is important to have “me” it is equally important to recognise that eventually it’s about “we”. The better my relationship with my innerself, the better my relationship with any other being on this planet.

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Dont Live the Past. Leave it

07 Thursday Feb 2019

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One of the easiest ways to feel miserable about ourselves is by replaying the past. Not only do we limit ourselves from enjoying the present moment, we end up holding onto something that no longer exists or is relevant today.

Change is constant. And with it we must adapt or fall. Yet so many of us still cling to the past or live in worry about the future. Very natural, very human but truly a waste of energy. We do not heal the past by living in it, we heal the past by living in the present.

By practising mindfulness and being a little more aware of our thought patterns we can learn that present moment is where life begins.

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Let it Rain

05 Wednesday Dec 2018

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As we get older we realise that some things are just not meant to be. Some friendships were meant to fizzle out. Some dreams didn’t happen. Some wounds just didn’t heal. And some desires would remain unfulfilled.  Acceptance is never easy and no one ever said it would be. But there does come a moment in all our lives when we have no choice but to shrug our shoulders and carry on. Only with acceptance can recovery and positive change begin. And the best thing to do while  it’s raining, is to let it rain.

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Being Mindful about Crystals

21 Tuesday Aug 2018

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The last pieces in my Amethyst collection.

My deep love for Healing crystals, gemstones and stones began in childhood when I would admire the Jade jewellery worn by mom’s Chinese friends who’d tell me legends and superstitions around the gorgeous green stone. Over the years I began to study Crystals seriously and then learnt to heal with them.  All my savings were happily spent buying healing stones in India and across the world adding to my collection.

Ignorantly I was fuelling an industry that was not only raping our mines but exploiting the poor into destroying the environment. Horror stories of mining practices came to view and I decided to stop buying  any more new crystals. What I had in my collection would stay, be revered and used as healing tools. If people needed crystals they would be welcome to purchase from my existing stock but I would no longer add to my collection, nor take any requests to source a crystal.

 

Our mines are rapidly depleting . Let us leave what there is, buried in Earth and respect and cherish what we already have in our homes and offices. Mother Earth has been generous but as humans we’ve overdone the taking as usual. It’s time to conserve, stop buying and to work with what we already have.

 

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Additional Reading Link – A friend just me this wonderful explanation here. Thank you 🙂

https://www.hehishelo.co.uk/The-Environmental-Impact-of-Mining-Crystals/B22.htm

 

 

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