Do you generally like being in or around large bodies of water like the sea or the lake? Are your happiest childhood memories around splashing in the sea?
Do you find you are able to relax instantly with the sound of running water?
Chances are you’re a Water Baby who is most calm and natural around water. The curative powers of water are well known but water babies have a special affinity with these precious drops of existence.
According to alternative healing water heals at all levels – mind, body and soul. Here are a few practices involving water healing:
The Sound of Water is said to lower blood pressure, bring tranquility and clarity to the mind and reduce anger and sadness as it allows us to look at our problems objectively and with calm.
The science of Hydrotherapy uses water to rejuvenate, maintain and bring back health. Treatments could range from steam baths, foot baths to the application of compresses. Aquatic physiotherapy involves bringing relief and mobility to the joints in a heated pool environment as well as spinal and orthopaedic ailments to name a few.
Water is vital to our survival and our healing. Water not only cleans our skin but detoxifies us internally and soothes us on the mental plane.
In Ayurveda, sipping hot water throughout the day aids and strengthens the digestive system and promote inner balance.
The Water element is one of the 5 basic elements or characteristics of Chi in Traditional Chinese Medicine. Every one of us is a unique blend of the influences of all the elements – namely water, wind, earth, fire and metal. Symbolising the kidney and the bladder, imbalances in the water element leads to ailments like water retention, infertility, night sweats and anxiety.
Used in traditional purification rituals in almost all cultures, Water in its essence symbolizes purity, cleanliness and peace.
Water heals inside and out. Even if we’re not water babies we still need it to live and stay healthy in the body, in the mind and in the soul. Drinking 8 glasses is a widely recommended by all doctors for hydration and inner harmony.
While studying about self healing a few years ago I had come across the concept of talking to your cells. Achievable in a meditative state, it involved focussing on the area, organ, or muscle that was hurting or diseased and literally, sending positive affirmations to that spot. Combined with energy healing techniques and approached holistically it seemed to have helped countless people around the world. Especially when viewed from the perspective of mind, body soul connections, it gave me an indepth look at why a certain illness may have manifested. The physical manifestation was the last in the process, tracing its roots to our spirit and our mind. For example, a person who represses feelings or doesnt speak out, may, over time have issues related to thyroid and a perpetual sore and painful throat.
Every part of our bodies is governed by our soul and our thoughts. And too many times when we say “Oh I have bad knees” “My digestion is not good” “I am a terrible sleeper” ‘My back is weak” we are simply prolonging and in a way worsening our ailments. But if we begin to look at our bodies as our temple, our space for healing, purification and our friends till the end and begin to send positive messages to it, our body does heal.
A couple of months ago my knees began to hurt during my daily walks. It had reached a point where I began to get so anxious about the pain, it began while I wore my shoes. A trip to the orthopaedic, follow up xrays and blood tests revealed nothing wrong. So what was I blocking? Research revealed, painful knees were atitudes I was holding onto, issues of stubborness and control, plus of course the fact that I would think “my bad knees wont let me walk for more than 2-3km” I was making things worse for myself. And so I began to talk to my knees during meditation using positive affirmations like “My knees are getting stronger each day” and “I am flexible to adapting to Life’s changes” “I let go of beliefs and atitudes that no longer serve me” and “I am willing to walk through my fears” and gradually over a couple of weeks I began to see a positive difference.
Affirmations, self talk, communicating directly to the cells may seem zany at first, but it does work. The next time you wake up with a twinge in your back, or an itch in your throat, take a few minutes to meditate and go inwards. See if you can visualise the spot which hurts and just say to yourself “I am healing” Find out what attitudes you may be holding on to, or emotions you may be suppressing. Address them. Talk about them. Let them go with love. After all, its time we all loved our self more, cells and all.
If you are keen to explore this, contact me for a Guided Healing Meditation. And we can begin by talking your way to wellness.
For a long time, I found it hard to truly forgive the people who had hurt me over the years. I felt that if I did forgive them, it would seem like what they did was ‘alright’, But how could their bitchiness, mockery and behaviour be ever alright? When I did think of them or bump into them, I would feel a burn in my heart. At the spot where the pain had somehow collected down the years. I’d heal the spot and carry on, but the repressed pain continued.
I’d heard of the concept of forgiveness and I honestly believed I’d let go of a lot of painful memories but last week I learnt that I hadnt. For a couple of nights I kept having nightmares of these people, as if they were ghosts from the past, appearing in my dreams, hurting me exactly the way they used to. And I made a conscious decision to do some intensive energy healing work on forgiveness.
At first it was hard, replaying the memories, remembering their faces, and feeling their icky energies all over again. But I learnt I had to, for one final time, replay it all and then let them go. Perhaps I had done something to do them consciously or unconsciously, perhaps it was unfinished karma, perhaps they were clueless that their behaviour was hurtful. Whatever it was, it had to be released.
Forgiveness was not a one sided act. It also included me. And the more I meditated, the more I saw myself in my younger years and realised how my own behaviour and words may have led to their reactions. Not only did I had to forgive them, I had to forgive myself.
The learning was almost instantaneous. During the meditations I understood, we cannot undo the past but we can make our present and our futures better. What some of them said or did was not acceptable but I had to let it go for my own healing. Forgiveness doesnt mean things would be hunky dory with them, or they would be welcomed into my heart or home, it just meant releasing an imprisoning memory. And it wouldnt have happened if I wasnt ready for it. For forgiveness to take place, we have to be ready for it, to release the memories and feel the freedom of releasing the negative energy that binds us to those people.
“I’m 35. I want to settle down and have babies. What do I need to know about this guy as a prospective husband? Will we have a future together?’
Her questions poured out nervously as she sat opposite the cards. And when I turned them over, I saw everything but stability with him. Reluctant to commit. Long gaps in their communication. Highly ambitious. Placing his job before everyone else.Sexual attraction but thats where it stopped. After reading out to her, I summarised “He’s not a family man”
“What do you mean?” she asked
I mean if you’re looking for someone who places his wife and children as a top priority, he’s not. Someone who’s a homebody, with a strong nesting instinct. Who will be a father, actively involved in raising your children, he wont. Someone who will come home to you and only you every evening after work, he would rather be hitting the pubs and clubs. Or hitting on other women. When you need him, he’d probably be in a meeting and wont answer the call. He cherishes his independence and doesnt see his future the way you do. Not interested in being tied down to conventional family structures, he wants to do his thing, when he wants to.
“Yes, he loves his space and privacy. When I ask him where he’s been, he gets annoyed”
More cards revealed a man of secrets. Who treasures and loves his private world, where he isnt answerable to anyone. And the more you ask, the more you push him away into his secrets.
Something in the cards struck a chord within her. There was a knowing light in her eyes. A rare moment of letting go of expectations . She summarised him beautifully “It’s not about me, or any other woman, it’s about him. Something in his past made him withdraw from commited, stable relationships. And somewhere, he’s not ready to be a family man at all. I dont think he ever will”
The moment she said that, I knew her connection with him would get better. The faster she understood his “no strings attached” attitude, the more she would accept him as he was, and release all expectations of wedding bells and babies and an apartment somewhere. She had made peace with her connection. And when she asked her next question, we both laughed.
“Will I find the potential family man?”
One of my constant grouses with living in Gurgaon is the amount of promises I get to hear from all levels of professionals and even volunteers. People who claim to do this or that and then dont! I’ve also learnt that 99% of them genuinely mean it at the time of promising but later realise it was a) unrealistic b) impossible to manage with their time schedules c) simply forget about it. And 75% of them go eerily quiet. Now that could mean “It’s not working”, “Im not interested” “I dont know how to say NO to people or admit my error in judgement”
Leaving me wondering and waiting and then feeling disappointed.
I understand it’s a lesson, in lowering expectations and then letting go of the results. And of course patience (a perennial challenge) but the other side of me wants some sort of answer. If you cant do it, say so. It will save everyone a lot of time and frustration. I make a mental note of taking the next promise with a salt shaker in hand.
And the sad part is many of these professionals will visit intuitives and ask “Why am I still struggling in my business and/or relationships?” And the answers will always point to gaps between promises and delivery.
Have people been challenging you every time you express an opinion? Do you keep agreeing to do things that you really don’t want to do? Have loved ones been demanding more of your time than you can possibly give? Ignoring you or dismissing your importance in a relationship? Or simply feeling drained by trying too hard to be nice and accessible to way too many people. Chances are high that your aura is a little too open, and your personal boundaries are getting blurred. People are walking into your personal space leaving you emotional, tired, numbed out, confused or scattered.
Defining and maintaining personal boundaries are vital to maintain our sanity and energy levels. And the purpose is simple, to protect and take care of ourselves. We need to be able to tell other people when they are behaving unacceptably or simply demanding way too much of ourselves. All of us have this right to protect and defend our boundaries and it’s never to late to start setting limits about how much you want to give of yourself in your relationships.
Even loved ones can sometimes unwittingly drain us with their demands. My son is learning that when his mommy needs “me time” he has to leave me alone for a bit. Not only does he see me emerge happier after a 15 minute break from him, he too will learn that it is important to take time out for ourselves.
As adults, learning how to set boundaries is a vital part of learning to respect and love yourself. Remember we all deserve to be treated with respect and dignity . No one deserves to be lied to, abused, ignored or belittled. Boundaries help us communicate our needs clearly and put us on the path to self empowerment.
Setting boundaries is not threats on your part, its simply a clear communication where you express your demands and express clearly what is acceptable and unacceptable to you. For example, a young manwho’s father was pressuring him to join the family business learnt to say “No, I want to find my own wings” and a woman who’s angry spouse was tiring her out with his tantrums picked up the courage to say “Dont vent your anger on me, I will not have it”
If setting boundaries is new to you, expect a reaction and expect to be tested. Your partner, parent, child, friend may find this side of you unfamiliar and may provoke you further or not take you seriously. Reassert yourself if necessary. Stick to your guns. Remember at the end of the day it’s your peace of mind that matters.
Your aura is your personal shield and it grows more defined as you become more and more aware of your self. Practice saying “no, let me be in peace” silently or out loud everyday.
Your Boundary Bill of Rights by Cat Burton
- You have the Right to be treated with respect.
- You have the Right to say NO without feeling guilty.
- You have the Right to make a mistake.
- You have a Right to ask for what you want and need.
- You have the Right to express your feelings and opinions.
- You have the Right to change your mind.
- You have the Right to feel good about yourself no matter what others
- You have the Right to act in your own best interest as long as you don’t
violate others in the process.
Enough said, I do hope this information helps you. Here’s a quote that encapsulates this and I hope it inspires you the way it inspired me.
We need to find the courage to say ‘NO’ to the things and people that are not serving us if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity.
— Dr. Barbara DeAngelis
“Silence can change the personality of an individual. Through silence a person controls anger and speech. One grows stronger through greater determination and self-confidence. One is more at peace and free of tension. There is conservation of energy and a person experiences greater inner strength.” Chanakya Niti
Somethings happened to the phone lines – my line appears to be “unreachable”, only messaging and whatsapp appears to be working. I’ve had to reschedule telephonic readings, message friends and family who’ve called and to experience the bliss of a completely silent morning and afternoon.
It’s been nearly 7 hours since I last spoke and I’m loving it:) It’s allowed me to connect with my innermost self and draw deeply from a limitless source of pure energy. I guess the past few days had been hectic and my body needed to have a day of absolute ssssshhhh to recharge:)
My son is calling out for me from somewhere. Should I reply or appear with a scribbled note saying “yes?”
- Everything’s going exactly as planned.
- Everything’s going to be alright.
- There IS beauty in this world.
- There IS goodness in human hearts.
- Wisdom exists in the bark of a tree and serenity exists in a blade of grass.
- When the squirrels play hide and seek stop and watch them celebrate being alive.
- Love IS the most powerful energy in this world.
- Got to care MORE for Mother Earth.
If you’d like to join me in guided meditation sessions outdoors in DLF 5 on a weekend morning do drop me a line.