When we were kids my Mother believed whatever significant happened on the 1st of January would recur the whole year through. Initially Dad would laugh at her words but one year we did fly on the 1st of January, and guess what, we travelled a lot that year. Another year unexpected house guests came on New Year’s Day and you can guess just what happened in the following 12 months. Her theory was proved right year after year with examples.
Soon Dad became a believer.
Each 1st of January, he would insist we write down our resolutions for the year ahead and if that wasn’t drudgery for a 9 year old, he also made it a point for us to study a bit on 1st of January, believing thats what we’d do the whole year long! While Mom ensured we did housework with her. On Dad’s part he worked and he cleared and organised the papers and bills. Something they both still do.
Today when I look back at our family traditions, I realise I have imbibed quite a few of them on every New Year. My teenager will agree as he shuffles to his books with that sullen bored look I must have had at his age, my husband will skip the carbs. And I sit down to write to wish all my readers a Happy Peaceful Productive 2020. Sharing with you what I have learnt.
What rituals and traditions do you practice on New Years Day? What would you like your future generations to learn from your Elders?
The mind is a clever thing it gently nudges us back to the past and we dwell in the experiencs. Or it pushes us headlong into the future, thinking about what we will do when something happens and then what if someone does something and we find ourselves in the midst of unease. That’s when a simple reminder by the Zen cards jolts us out of our time travel into this very moment. The right here, right now which is perfect and peaceful. And we learn to appreciate the present is a culmination of the past and the launch pad for the future. What we do, feel, think, say right now is all that matters, all there is.
The Ajai Alai Mantra was written in the 17th century by the great Sikh Warrior saint Guru Gobind Singh in Gurmukhi, who taught self-worth and grace in times of difficulty or negativity with his words of praise. The Ajai Alaiis a part of the Jaap Sahib daily prayer and is believed to usher in pure positive energy into our hearts and to this planet. It shifts your own vibration by bringing you into alignment with the qualities of the Creator. This version has been chanted by Mirabai Ceiba a duo consisting of guitarist/singer Markus Sieber and singer/harpist/keyboardist Angelika Baumbach.
Today I heard about the passing of an old Cherokee medicine woman who I met way back in 2001. Probably one of the wisest people I’ve ever met. I consulted her when I had quit the corporate world and my last boss disclosed to me that he had stolen my personal file from my desk to hinder my future job search. While I was relieved to know what happened to that file, I was also angry and deeply disappointed by his petty act. I knew I wanted to be self employed but I couldn’t shake off the anger I felt for him. I will never forget her words of wisdom.
“Do not curse those who curse you, belittle you, or harm you. Bless them. For what you send out will return three times over back to you. And the negativity they send out will return three times over back to them”
It took months of inner work. Whenever I felt hurt by his act of jealousy and sabotage I worked hard to not send him negativity, which was easier and oh so tempting. I sent him good wishes and surrendered to the laws of karma.
Looking back I realised the importance of her words. As individuals we can not please everyone. There will always be someone who’s unhappy and threatened by the people we are. They will criticise, tear us down, block our paths and the temptation to drop down to their levels will arise, but the best way forward for peace is to resonate at a higher vibration. Send them love, send them light, send them forgiveness and focus on your own path.
Rest in Peace dear Anna. Your words of wisdom will stay on forever.
I still remember the first time she came for a session. Tears and rage burned in her eyes covering a deep wound in her heart.
“I want revenge. He’s seeing someone from his office romantically. AGAIN”
The Tarot confirmed an affair, but she knew it already. Women always know. The cards pointed at a narcissistic spouse, one who lived purely for himself, playing absent father to his 2 children and blaming this lady for all his misery. The kind who sing softly about their wives follies behind their back to sympathetic ears and bosoms. Her anger was beyond that. She didn’t care what he was telling his lovers, she only wanted him to feel her pain.
“This is not the first time. And this one won’t be the last. I don’t want to tell him I know this time. I only want revenge” She covered her face and wept in shame, the tears of a woman who’d never taken revenge before in her life.
“The last time he had an affair and I found out he promised to keep this marriage going for the sake of the children. Why did he break his vows? I want him to repent”
The messages she received urged her to find peace among her loved ones. Her friends and family her pets. To soak up all the unconditional love she possibly could. She needed to be strong first with those who loved her.
” This is a karmic relationship. Don’t get into the negative zone. No need for revenge, let karma do it for you.”
I could see she wasn’t convinced. But karma is like that. We don’t really believe in it until we’re hit by the impact of a karmic relationship. We like to believe it’s outside us, but somewhere in some way we too are responsible for creating a karmic situation where the pain cuts so deep, it almost seems unhealable.
“Forgive him and move on with your life”
I didn’t hear from her again till a few days ago when this came in the mail.
“Just wanted to say thank you for being the only one who told me not take revenge on my cheating husband and let karma only decide what his fate is. Everyone else gave me so many remedies to bring him closer, to destroy the other woman but nothing has worked. Some people even predicted that he would destroy himself. But I dont want to hurt him the way he has hurt me and my children. This IS a karmic relationsip, And then I remembered what your cards said to forgive him and move on. It is very very hard and has been a very painful journey to let go of the abuse and the adultery. But I am getting there. One night I felt so light because I had forgiven him and no longer began to feel any need to take revenge. I found the strength to live my own life and be a mother and father to my teenaged children. He is facing his own karma. His children do not want to be with him anymore. I have found so much strength with my friends and my family. Please share my story so others can learn please say a prayer for me”
Many prayers to you my brave lady. You have demonstrated what very few of us have achieved in this lifetime. The willingness and the ability to forgive the person who has hurt you the most. I pray you find greater strength and peace as a soul.
If you’ve read this far, please say a prayer for this lady.
Copyright Mita Bhan. All Rights Reserved.
For privacy sake, no names and details will ever be revealed, case studies are shared for all of us to learn from.
You are blessed today for all your good thoughts, words and actions of the past. The times you helped someone. The times you brought laughter into a sad room. And the times you were uniquely, you.
Think of a special time in your life. And express gratitude to the people and places that come up in your memory. They too have played a role in blessing you today.
Copyright Mita Bhan. All Rights Reserved.
Tarot for Today are a part of the series of messages I receive after meditation. I hope they bring you clarity and happiness. If they do, please share the link with your family and friends. Thank you. For appointments message 9810138315/mita.bhan.com
“Love Yourself” is probably the most frequently transmitted message we receive in our day to day lives from the Universe. Though it may sound like a “passing buzzword” that’s sometimes shiny and sometimes dull, it keeps on coming our way. But we choose to skip it. Some of us practice self love occasionally and then move on to other things. If you’ve ever wondered why, here are 5 possible reasons you may be giving up.
Disbelief – You just cannot believe how self love will work. Somewhere you think it’s a fad, or it’s not for you or you just aren’t good enough. Ask yourself why you gave up and realise this is a lifelong practice to make peace with ourselves.
Quitting too Soon – Too many people give up the practice after a few days or weeks, not realising that it takes time to heal years of low self worth and like all forms of practice, there will be dull days. The times when we feel most disappointed with ourselves is when we most need to practice this. Just dont quit!
External Sources – This could be watching the news everyday and feeling such an overwhelming sense of negativity you just stop bothering. Or a change in routine (sudden workload for example) where you simply don’t find the time and forget.
Old Habits – Habits are hard to break, and harder to make. Some say it takes 21 days of consistent effort for a good habit to form and even longer to release the urge to binge, criticise ourselves or break the exercise routine.
Other’s Opinions. No matter what wear, say or do, there will always be some people who just won’t like you. Or will do what they can to put you down or make you feel small. Just keep loving yourself and remember, haters gotta hate. If you’re depending on others to love you to make you feel good about yourself you’ll always be disappointed. Start by approving of yourself, a little bit every day.
Ultimately, self love is a personal process. One that needs no one to approve of us and has no deadline. Do what works for you, and just don’t quit. And if you do, get back up and start loving who you are all over again:)
Trying to be strong by repressing emotions is the worst thing we can do for our health. Every emotion we ignore, push back or numb out, finds a way of coming back at us, in the most toxic of ways. By suppressing a painful memory and acting like everything is normal is simply buying time until they re-emerge or make us sick.
I’ve learnt that repressing emotions and bottling them up doesn’t make them disappear, they only make things worse and one fine day, some little thing is going to make them spill over or explode. And if I want to live more fully in the present and embrace the potential of the future, I HAVE to express those old buried feelings.
What’s required is a final goodbye. Crying one last time for something or someone and then never again. Pouring your heart out in a letter. Talking it out. Realising that the memory is the past, and cannot be changed, only released.
Leaving us lighter, freer and a lot more healthier.
Guided Healing Meditations combine energy healing and meditative techniques to help us release old, unwanted baggage that’s preventing us from being our best selves. For more information message me at email@example.com or 9810138315